Did I overeacted !!

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I have been taking full time care of my 11 month who exhausts me to the core . In the evenings I feel I have no energy left to be honest . My hubby comes today after office and says that I don't my son well. I am giving him just 3 times solids he should have more . I just blewed up I said I put my soul in this work and how much does he puts into it blah blah blah ?? what happened. I thought he is juding my intentions .whatsnt it right ?

Do you mean you've only fed your son solids three times?

Yup I feed him breakfast , lunch and dinner and snacks but that's rare he doesn't like them apart from milk that he has which 4 tp 5 bottles in day

Anything wrong ?

Why exactly did you husband say?

Ah, three times a day. That sounds fine. What is your husband saying?

Feed him 4 times aDay

He said I don't take care of my son properly ( out of the blue) and that 4 times feeding is the rule bullshit ??

I am sorry for that word please delete i am just angry ??

Is he not from the uk?i think in other countries its normal to have smaller more frequent meals but so long as the food is nutritionally balanced then baby is fine.Is your husband controlling and nasty generally or was this a one off?

Saying bullshit is ok here, gg

He is not nasty but yes controlling .HE wil seek my advice on evry matter but does what he likes and I often ask him why did you asked me then ??yes we are not from the uk . And looking at the culture here I feel people from here are blessed to have equality in every term . In country like ours its only said not practised .

Options:

1. Just lie and say "Okay I will feed him four times a day then" and don't change anything. How would he even know?
2. Tell him you will feed the child when hungry, but not force food down their throat.
3. Tell him that he isn't doing his job properly, and should be doing X instead of Y and is a terrible worker. Then when he gets angry, point out that's exactly what he is doing to you.
4. Tell him to do one.

You are doing a great job. It is hard to look after any baby/toddler. You haven't overreacted by being angry at this criticism. As others have said, tell him to mind his own business/work and leave you in peace - unless he has something helpful to say!

This weekend, go off for the day and leave him to care for your son alone, for as long a time as he is usually gone at the office.

Hopefully the experience will help him understand and respect how difficult and tiring it is to take care of a child all day. And that people who do so need support and encouragement, not criticism.

" And looking at the culture here I feel people from here are blessed to have equality in every term . "

Equality may be on the statute books but it's down to individuals to practice it in their own homes and teach it to their children. There are plenty of British men who think they can dominate and control women just because they happen to be men. There are plenty of British men who openly despise women just for being women. 'Culture' or 'tradition' and even 'religion' are often used as excuses, but that's all they ever are. The same applies to you.

If you're not happy with being told you're feeding your baby all wrong or with any other aspect of his behaviour then speak up and be assertive. You have all the rights of any other woman in the UK

oh my.
i hate him.
wish i could leave him for a week in my shoes.but i cant leave even for a couple minutes cause i know my baby better then anyone.cant trust anyone not even my own partner with our child.but some understanding from his side has to be.
treat him same as he treats you.he expects you to understand him after work well you do coz you work been there done that but he hasnt been in babies job so how should he understand?he sees he runs there you go.