I ended my 4.5yr relationship 3 months ago we are still living together until the house sells. He was a rubbish partner & rubbish dad to our 18mth old son, but since the split he is doing all the things he should have been doing from the start. Part of me is pleased for our sons sake that he is finally making an effort (although some of his behaviours are questionable) but the other part of me is furious that it took me to end things for him to start being a father. Whenever I said to him that he needed to spend time with ds his response would be 'I'm busy, you wanted the kid', he would mainly be playing in the garage!!
He was emotionally abusive to me during the relationship, would arrange to meet other woman (when I confronted him tried to get out of it by saying he would have never actually gone to meet them), hid over £20ks worth of debt from me, spent a huge amount of time watching anal porn online until I caught him out then he just started watching it in private browsing so I couldn't check up on him, we had no physical relationship as my size is an issue to him (I'm a 14/16),, he would shout at me for spending money even on essentials like bread and milk, then it would find that he'd spent £300 that we didn't have on his hobby!!!! The list goes on!!!!
He is a complete and utter knob & I can't believe that is was so stupid as to have a child with him. The best thing I ever did was ending the relationship, but I am now furious with myself for getting into this situation. Looking back he was always like this, how did I not see it, how did I think it was acceptable??
So just feeling very sorry myself at the mo & looking for people to tell me that everything will be ok. Not looking forward to the prospect of having him on the outskirts of my life forever