Hi
Ive been married around 7 years to myDH. We started off a bit rocky, I sort of just dealt with it and carried on and then I fell pregnant with our first child and then very quickly after that I fell pregnant again with DS2. During the time I had the kids, our relationship was at its lowest point. I was obviously stressed with having 2 young children and becoming a mum and the strains of the marriage just made things worse. I told him I wanted to leave. He really didn't want me to and said he'd change and to be fair, he did. Massively. I would go as far to say the marriage was quite a happy one. Despite this, I always held the feelings of hurt that I endured not so long before. I still can't get myself to forgive him. Anyway that was about 2 years ago. However, in the last few months we've become really distant and hardly talk. We dont chat anymore or have a laugh. We get zero time together and lately we've not even been sleeping in the same bed, although this is mainly because of the kids crawling back into our beds in the middle of the night. He shows zero affection towards me whereas before he would love to cuddle and hold hands etc. Every time I try to show any affection etc he just makes an excuse and I feel rejected and hurt. Ive asked him why he does this but shrugs it off and says he just wants to relax.
Its like as though the marriage is dying. We are co parenting fine. But we dont function as a husband and wife. More like a parent team.
Ive come on here just to get it all out and for someone to listen. I'm not really looking for anything.
Thanks