my son just made me cry...wtf!

[onanotherday]

Long story short. Stbxh left ....been unhappy for years...I'm controlling..blaj blah. Obviously his alcoholism and BPD not a factor??

Anyway pretty toxic at the end and deverststing when ow appear swiftly...

2 DC been put through the ringer too, I ashamed to say. Oldest suffers from anxiety and he has become quite controlling. Under CHAMS and working with h school. But very bright, but no friends...just me!

Anyway had a stupid argument this morning, resulting in him being bloody rude and bullying. I know I should WO(man) up. Just feel white ATM. Need to get it out!! He's 14 BTW.

It's hard being 14.
Have a good cry op. You are allowed.
Move on. Go and have a hug with him.

Well he has learned from the master, so it's not surprising he has stepped into his shoes.
You have some work to do undoing your xh's work.

I feel for you both, I really do. The first place to start is having your son understand that he must treat his mother with respect and certainly doesn't have any place being controlling towards you.

Have your cry, then tackle it. Hard. xx

If you're not feeling at your strongest, comments that you might otherwise brush off can really wound. The people closest to you always know where the chinks are in your armour.

Bullying is nasty behaviour. What consequences have you imposed?

I've cried in front of my teenage son out of exasperation, I don't think it does any harm for our children to see that we are human, we are not 'perfect' and their behaviour does have a consequence. I've got no words of wisdom, being a parent to a teen is (in my opinion) far, far more difficult than all those baby/toddler years or problems of 'not sleeping or feeding'. .

Thank you posted twice as said it had been deleted??

I know I will put my big girl pants on! Told for many years I was the bully?? Maybe its me?

Told him unacceptable to talk to me like that...said he just had!!! Grrr
Thanks for the support!