Missing babies dad

[YellowTangerine]

Hello I don't really know why I'm posting my head is just all over the place at the moment.
I had my first baby 9 days ago. I split from her dad when I was 20 weeks. He didn't help at all during the pregnancy and rarely spoke to me. He was there at the birth and has spent a few days with me and our daughter since.
The problem is he is very selfish and wont make a good partner. He is a good dad but only when it suits him. His needs will always come first.
The problem is I know all of the facts about how useless he is and how we are better off without him, yet I am thinking about him constantly and its bringing me down.
Any ideas how I can stop thinking about him and move on?

By accepting that he is not a very good partner or role model for your child. You want the best for her don't you?

Believe that you and her deserve more, better.

You had your baby 9 days ago, your hormones will be everywhere and you want your little family, there will be soooo much love for your little baby and you want to dhare that with her dad.

I don't think that's unusual, I think we're programmed that way. And you've got time in the night to ponder...

You know he isn't good enough for you. You want your lovely baby to have a happy mummy and daddy, you know he can't give you that. Try to concentrate your mind on enjoying your little one, sadly they don't stay little for long.

I think that's probably the main problem. Every time she does something funny I want someone to share it with. The first week he was involved lots and now he hasn't spoken to me for 3 days. I know how lucky I am to have a healthy beautiful baby I just can't help feel something is missing.

Aww bless you and congratulations!

It will be hard for you of course, so don't feel bad about it.
Could you get a little project going such as a scrapbook or photo album (even just on your phone) all about her first week / month / year for her to see when she grows up? That way you are keeping busy and you have someone to share it with too (albeit in the future!)

Good luck and stay strong!