I am so nervous that I don't know if I will make sense. Husband and I have been together for 5 years. We have a 20 months old boy and I am 16 weeks pregnant. We haven't done anything together in the last three months (not sitting together in the sofa, not having dinner together, not talking, nothing). Excuse is he doesn't have time. I have been at home rest for 6 weeks due to high risk pregnancy, so he was doing laundry, dishes and everything besides his work.
Problem is around the same time he started making friends with other parents at daycare and trying to meet with them. First meeting I joined without been invited... We were waiting for an hour, standing in the cold (he didn't want to wait in a coffee shop). First other parents arrived 45 min late. Finally, it was baby's lunch time and I decided to take him to a restaurant and not wait anymore (we had phones after all!). Baby naps after lunch and he was crying, so we needed to leave and my husband was really angry.
I thought he was just been selfish and stupid but I am telling you because now it takes another sense for me.
one day he went for bread and I was warming up the food. After an hour I called him. He was having a coffee with one of the mother's from daycare that he met by chance... and I was sitting at the table waiting for him!
Well, he started to have his phone in his pocket all the time and suddenly I couldn't take it to play music for baby as we used to do in the car, so I started suspecting something was wrong, so I checked it and I saw that he was texting this woman quite often, so I confronted him and asked if he had scheduled the coffee and had me waiting like a fool.
One day I asked him for his phone and I checked the SMS. He had removed some and then I got really angry.
His explanation is that he was just trying to make friends with other parents but he felt that I wouldn't like if I read the SMS and that was the reason to remove them. Obviously that makes me think that they were not normal SMS you send to other parents from daycare.
Since that day we have been sleeping apart (around 3 weeks) and he has not found the time to talk with me yet. However he scheduled 3 dinners with friends, that mother from daycare was invited over for lunch, etc.
Thing is I checkd his phone today again and he has continued to text this woman. I don't know if she is married or divorced but his husband is abroad. Their conversation is about her complaining about her husband, my husband saying he is a good listener and is there for her, how can he help, etc. Besides that, he says he also has problems... I feel so betrayed. I think this is not respectful or making friends. I think he is approaching her and tht it is totally inappropiate.
I jujst need some advice, someone to tell me that I am taking things out of proportion.