Anyone else split at Christmas? How is it going?

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I'm having ok days and then bads days.. Had mc after nearly 4 yr relationship. Feeling v sad it didn't work out and feel like I've been through hell.. How is everyone doing? What changes have you made?

Didn't split at Christmas but didn't want your post to go unanswered. Christmas isn't a month ago yet so be kind to yourself. Those 'OK days' should increase as time goes on.

Feels like an uphill struggle. Miss the company and friendship, but not the abuse and control. Trying to move forward. We were together nearly 4 years

I left him at the beginning of October and moved into rental 12th of December. We had been together 2.5 years. I found Christmas hard but am now having more good days than bad. I still have fleeting moments of sadness but overall happier keep going and ^ be kind to yourself

What changes have I made? When I first left I couldn't even pick a duvet cover I'd lost myself to him and his ways so much. I've been making the rental to my and my children's taste and putting up shelves and a bathroom cabinet. It's been empowering. Also enjoying the stuff I couldn't do when I was with him.

That's so funny, iloverunning. When my ex moved out the first thing I did was to buy new girly stuff for the kitchen, millions of candles and new bedding. I also feel empowered by my ability to put shelves together and dealing with deceased pets (have to dispose of another one tonight-hamster!). He would never have stopped me from choosing those things anyway but it's still nice to choose for just me and dds! I feel very 'girl power' about it all!

about the hamster, I cried for a whole weekend when my hamster died. There are so many things I stopped doing when I was with ex. Using mouth rinse, brushing my teeth for "too" long, showering for "too" long, going to the gym, going on nights out, seeing my family, buying stuff from next without a massive lecture, even going to the toilet was a massive hassle!