Posted before about this...but need words of support for MIL weekend...

[Lottegirl]

DP working in the US for 2 weeks. MIL not seen DP since Xmas. She wants to see him before he goes and vice versa. I guess I am being unreasonable by wondering why he needs to factor time in with her when I only see him at weekends at the moment...AIBU? I've not said anything (learn from that before!). Doesn;t help that last week she asked DP why he didnt buy a place for himself, (she is planning on moving and said she would move 3 hours to hwere he lived but only if he actually bought somehwere so she would know he would stay...), when he has told he rin the past we are saving for our own place together within the next 18 months.

It's Friday and I just wanted some mumsnet support to get me ready for the weekend :)

Why do you need to be present when they meet? Go out and do something else!

She lives about 2.5 hours away so if I don't go, it means nearly a whole day not seeing DP over the weekend.

Is that not the lesser of two evils?

Perhaps. But seeing the DP for one full day a weekend starts to not really feel like a relationship as it is...without taking another day off and then not seeing him for 3 weeks...

I think that you are being a bit unreasonable, sorry! My DP works away in the week but sometimes when he is home, he naturally wants to see people other than me. Your DP hasn't see him Mum for a few weeks and won't see her for a few more - you don't like the woman, likely for good reason, but surely you can see that your DP has obligations and needs outside of your relationship. I think you are being a bit tight really

thanks for your response... I will take it on board this weekend :)

You're in your relationship for the long term so a day off for him to see his family is not that big a deal.

I would just not go with him - and ask nicely about his mother afterwards. Thats the way I deal with visits to my MIL and it works for us.

Maybe do something nice together on the Sunday before he goes off for his trip?

I don't think you can begrudge him a weekend seeing his DM. Plenty of people work away/abroad/different shift patterns to their partner but still have to factor in seeing other people. Do you want him to never see him mother if it means it encroaches on your time with him?

agreed, I do think you need to be okay about him seeing her, even though it means less time with him.