Can you tell me about meeting 'the one' please...

[MikeTheShite]

How did you know? When did you know?

because I think I'm being totally naive and ridiculous

I thought I had met "the one". There seemed this bond. A rightness. Turned out to be nonsense and I realise now actually it was a lame relationship which I built up in my head to be such better than it was. My friends didn't like him either. That should have given me a clue

The moment I set eyes on DH I knew he would be significant in my life and told the friend I was with so. As I got to know him it transpired we had a massive amount of stuff in common, interests I've never shared with anyone else I've met, stuff in our childhoods that's happened to us both. We have very different personalities in many ways but we are almost like different sides of the same person. I have read that you can subconsciously 'read' someone's face - who knows.

I told my friend I thought I would marry him after a few months and did (six years later). DH says he also knew we'd always be together very shortly after we met. To be honest I'm a very singular person and had always thought I would never settle into a relationship, I can't imagine being with anyone not exactly like him - it would be pointless.

I felt very powerfully indeed that I had met "the One". He wasn't the One at all, and I'm not sure where that feeling came from. I'm a bit suspicious now if I get those electric feelings. Some say they are a sort of warning from your gut. Just keep your wits about you. But have fun too!

I thought my Ex was the one. He wasn't. :)

I love reading all these stories!

That "click"? It is the unconscious coming into play.

Not that this is necessarily an awful thing, but what it is not is a trouble-free, mystical union that somehow transcends the realities of being with another person and all of their flaws and foibles.

What it probably is is the opportunity to work on some pretty deep, ingrained stuff together. If you can see it and approach it that way, then it is easier to understand once the glow has worn off.

For me, it was just this instant weird feeling, like a knowledge. I knew from his first day of messaging (dating website) and we swapped numbers that day. went for first date 4 days later, kissed,never looked back. Its really cliche, but he put his hand on my knee at dinner, and I felt it, this instant attraction, chemistry and this absolute wow thing. I remember going into the loos and audibly going Wow.

18 months on, we are amazing together.with and without our kids.together and apart. we love each other, adore each other, support each other. we never row. we just, fit.

he is the complete love of my life. even having been married and long term relationships previously. this man is the one. and I just, well, knew.