Want a third child which is ridiculous as we were only ever going to have ONE!

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Dh and I dithered for ages over whether or not to have any children, we were married 11 years before even TTC. Ds was born 23 months ago, I was horrifically sick and it wasn't all plain sailing having a baby after so long as a couple but we were thrilled.

Despite agreeing beforehand that we only would have 1 child, I knew within hours of ds birth that I would have another.

Dd is 5 weeks and exactly the same, I was so ill I was off work for 7 weeks. I didn't enjoy pregnancy, hated feeling huge, body not own etc. but now she is here I just love her to bits. Again, it's not easy with a newborn but I wouldn't change a thing.

However, I have that broody feeling again despite being still in some pain from second c section. Dh and I were very clear that two children would be such a blessing and that was it for us. So where is this bloodiness coming from? I have a longing to be pregnant again, why I don't know, I hated it.

Dh does not want another; not that he can think straight as we are both exhausted from night feeds and a 5am rising toddler. How do I even have space in my mind to consider pregnancy and another baby?

Is this something that I would have to contend with no matter how many babies I had?

Is it just hormones?

I feel sad about it. Sad that I'll never be pregnant again and never give birth and this feeling is really flooring me

I felt like this after the birth of DS, our 2nd-we agreed on 2. It soon passed & I'm so glad it did tbh.

Yes, it's sad feeling that this is the last time... But it's not appropriate to name the decision now. Your hormones are all over the place, and as your dc get older you tend to find babies Less interesting, and enjoy engaging with your dc at the different stages.

Give yourself some time to shake the hormones off, really enjoy your lovely baby and the 'I'll never be here again' sadness won't feel so poignant.

Name should be make. Sorry

It's hormones and instinct.

Despite two HG pregs, one with added sepsis, I wanna third kid. I love the results of the preg. I love them, even when they are driving me mad and I have no idea how handle them to get the best outcome for them.

But it's just not possible. So yes, I'm putting it down to hormones and instinct and cherishing every moment I am able to with the Pipsqueak and accepting, grieving, that there cannot be a third.

I was the opposite. I remember clearly at 6 week check post dc2 saying "no more" and meaning it.

But a year later I began to feel like my family wasn't complete and we had dc3 about 15 months later. She is now 4 and I don't want any more.

I really wouldn't make a decision so soon after having a baby. If the feeling stays over the next year or so then you'll have to look at it, but for now just enjoy the dc you do have and take it from there.

I kept going until I didn't have than feeling any more. My absolute limit was two. I have four! And I'm so glad I didn't force myself to stick to some preconceived limit. We cant possibly be able to know how many will be right until we have that many, then we know! IME.

(...two of mine are 50 weeks apart )

Gawd. I feel like this. All my life I'd thought I'd have 2. Now I've got 2 (youngest is 5m) I'm sad that that might be it.

Head and DH says no way, heart could be persuaded.

I'm putting it down to hormones and instinct, but everyone tells me that you absolutely know when you're done. I have got there yet.

*haven't got there

I need to keep telling myself that at 35 I'm too old for another baby

Give it time. Give it time. Wait until you both see how you feel 10, 20 months down the line.

you know at 35 you aren't, but you do have to weigh health, your partner's wishes, your existing children, finance and your own heart into the balance. But right now it is not the time to think of it. Right now, with a 5 week old, you aren't even allowed to try to make a baby!

You aren't too old*

We have stopped at 2. They're 5&3 now.

Practically and logically it would be insane to have more. My mental state is not good for the first year as sleep deprivation and I are not a good combination.

But when I look at my DCs and think I wonder what more of you would be like.... It is a strong feeling. A pull. I'm "only" 33 so feel I could have more but actually it could be a really bad idea.

So we stop at 2. Also helped by the fact that DH says no more. But occasionally recently he's made the odd comment about another, jokingly. I think he's joking!

dotty I'm 35 too. I think nature does this to us at this age on purpose.

I'm just about to take dd2 out of the bassinet part of the pram and move her to the upright bit. My heart aches at the thought that there will never be our tiny baby going in there again.

I'm sentimental at the best of times but this is doing me in. But it's weird because it's not like I long for another, I'm just nostalgic that that part of my life might be is over.

Life and finances would be so much easier if we stopped at 2!

I'm still at the stage of gazing at my beautiful daughter and longing for time to stand still and that I can just breathe in her beautiful smell and look in her eyes when she's drunk on milk forever!

schweet I'm looking at a tacky sleb magazine about all these women who are pregnant in their mid 40's and thinking well maybe there is hope!

Get lost broodiness!

35 old? Seriously? I think that might offend people.

I agree prof! Why on earth is 35 'old' or 'too old'?!

I was 40 when I had my third. There's a ten year gap between him and his sister's. He's my whole world. I'm so glad I did it. Just wait a bit and see how you feel. You've plenty of time. 35 ! Old !!

I have 3 and was broody when dc3 was about 1. DH said to me that I might always want another child so why not stop while we could all fit in a normal car. I felt sad when I gave away our cot etc but I gave them to someone who needed them more than my loft did which made it easier.

I know the feeling. I still get it, mostly when I have to change DS2's clothes up a size and put the small ones away (haven't got to the stage of being able to get rid of them yet). DS2 is 27m now and there is no way I'm having another baby - I was lucky to have him, I was 45 when he was born, I'm FAR too old now (I did smile a little at your thought that 35 was too old), we can't afford to have another baby and I never wanted to have 3.

But... I really really enjoy the tiny baby stage. And I miss it! But still not going to happen.

I feel like this and have two children, my youngest is eight months. I don't feel like my family is complete but I do think I'd feel it was complete after another one. What's wrong with wanting a third? My partner does too.
I was broody right after both despite hating pregnancy, despite having horrible births. The broody eas is still there! Go for it if it's what you and your other half decide you want

Hormones. They last about 2 years and then suddenly you see a mother with a new born and you think thank god that's not me.