Is it normal to feel like this?

[loganberry12]

Been separated for 3 years in April not yet divorced. We've tried to get back together briefly but it didn't work out mainly because he's an arsehole lol. Any way although I know it could never be & I derserve better I still have feelings for him. I've joined a local singles social club & going to my first meet up Saturday . I'm feeling sad & emotional about my exh I wAnt to move on & there's a few potential guys I like the look sound of etc. should I go Saturday ? I'm nervous because I haven't had any other adult contact or socialising but I really want to move on & maybe meet some new friends .

Yes go. Like anything else daunting, the longer you leave it the worse the anxiety tends to get. The reality .... getting dressed up, going out chatting with people and maybe making a few new friends ... is likely to be much more enjoyable than you're anticipating.

A lot of the 'feelings' you retain for your ex will be simply down to you being bored, lonely and taking the easy route. Takes more effort to restart your social life but, once you have, you'll find it a lot easier to finally let go of the past

Tbh I'm a bit nervous about walking in ony own they have been going a few years & Im worried I won't know what to say etc

Thank goodness you are finally getting 'out there' . Go, just remember that everyone is as nervous as you. It will do you good to meet some women as well as men that will be able to widen your social circle and then you will be able to see that that useless x of yours got far more attention from you than he deserved.

Remember, you are not the only single person out there, there are lots of different personalities to meet and most of them won't be petulant children like your x.

Excited for you

Go with the intent of having a nice evening, and having an opportunity to talk to some new people. Don't build it up as some kind of thing where you are actively looking for a new partner.

It will take a lot of pressure off of you, and you will be able to relax more.

Have fun!

Did someone invite you? Do you have a contact person? Someone you're especially keen to meet? There's usually someone at these things that takes the role of 'meeter and greeter'. If it's local and you're all single you're bound to have something in common with the others.

Have a little faith in yourself.

Been out & brought a new outfit for Saturday night

Well done :) That's the spirit.

Brilliant logan . Does it make you feel great? :)

Haven't tried it on yet buzzard but it looks nice

well try it on, woman, and tell us how stunning you look!

Not sure if I can be bothered to go now I've had a headache all day my foots hurting & I'm knackered also got work in the morning.

Errr...take two paraceptamols, get dressed and go out. You don't have to stay long, but you need to make the first step of your future.

Go on woman, stop procrastinating on MN!

stop making excuses..it's just nerves
usually the things that you are dreading going to are the ones you enjoy the most.
Now go get ready-that's an order

Ok I will lol

Good luck!

Hope it goes well

Well I went so glad I did I met some lovely people & had a laugh

Yeay! Well done ????

Well done Logan. Hope work is a breeze today. When is the next meeting?

Next meeting is the 31st . I've been asked out for a drink by one guy he seems very nice he's not really my type no sparks but maybe I should change my type eh. Works very busy today

Yes, you should definitely change your type. Go, it will give you a new experience and a chance to hone your flirting skills (though, I suspect if you have already been asked for a drink after one meeting that you have that down already?)

You don't need sparks yet, you need a change of scene.

< ahem > look where "sparks" got you

absolutely, change your type