Sex in new relationship

[Pickuupinmynova]

It's been five months since we got together. First few months were fantastic, lots of great sex. Although it was more of the "quick get your pants off cos I really fancy you sex" then the exploration type if you know what I mean. Which was fine by me, we only ever really get to spend the night once or twice a week and there's always been a lot of chemistry. I thought the other type would come later.

The last couple of weeks have been different. New man has been ridiculously busy in work. He is also really stressed out and worried about it and generally not himself.

Anyway, last couple of times we've stayed overnight (usually after he has been working a 14 hour shift, we haven't DTD. Understandably I suppose, he is knackered.

Last night we were kissing and things were getting heavy and he lost his erection.

Now I'm starting to get paranoid that it's more about me then work?

Do you think work stress would effect sex so early on in the relationship?

He is working a lot. How old is he? It could well be stress. My h works mad shifts and some nights. There are some nights where he just asks too much of his body.
It's bery unlikely to be you. He's spending time with you without sex. He enjoys your time even when he's having a 'time' at work. Hth

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A stressy 14 hour shift? And he lost his erection? Yup, it's obviously you at fault here OP :)

Chill, girl. It's not you I'm sure. Btw, what did you do to help him regain his erection? Were you eagerly participating in the regain process (so to speak)? This can be a minefield as well, too much enthusiasm can seem fake, or seem like the fella is now being pressured to perform. Not enough enthusiasm and it's a case of 'why bother, she's just not that into me...' Honestly, it's not easy for us fella's you know. :)

Not your fault! mine works a LOT less than yours and can keep his erection completely fine when he's not been at work all day (last week was some of the best sex EVER as he was off work all week!) going round today, we don't live together - i want sex. he won't be able to do it because it seems when he's been at work he's been busy all day, he's knackered and just can't be bothered. then I dry up. Then we both get sulky. Lesson learned - no weekday sex. I'll just dtd on myself i'm not particularly bothered about that, but I always want loads of sex - i have such a high sex drive and I can't keep my hands off DP - it's been two years and for him the honeymoon period has worn off. for me - not so much. i want to pounce on him all the time, im never as knackered as him when it comes to intimacy because i feel like I need it y'know?
it's stress - my DP gets it, your DP gets it, we can stay wet but a man can't stay hard if something's on his mind - we can switch off, they can't as easily.
I wouldn't worry, i didn't know he was stressed until I MADE him talk to me. all seemed well afterwards as we learned sex is off the cards during the week grumble grumble