Emotional Affair

[Pokadotty]

I've just ended an EA which resulted in a horrid year of anxiety stress and depression. I know the relationship was unhealthy and could have only of go one way(the wrong way). I've had counselling and am trying my best to keep moving forward but It's hard...each day seems such a battle. Has anyone else gone through the same?

If you were having an emotional affair with someone, that presumably means you were/are in a long term relationship? Has that continued? Does your partner know about the affair?

We are still in a relationship and no he doesn't no

Oh petal, be kind to yourself,and congratulations on getting those brakes on before more damage was done. The hurt will fade in time. Concentrate on the relationship you have.

Thank you for your words of support. I wish I could talk to dh about it all..he's my best friend. I tell him everything. He said to me earlier this evening "are you ok? You look down." I have to lie...it's horrible. I just can't do it to him...I can't share the pain just to make myself feel a bit better only to make him suffer. We need to go to couple councilling but I'm holding back because of this.

What did your emotional affair provide that your life - or this marriage with your best friend who you tell everything - didn't? If it was simply some foolish crush that went too far, it's entirely your own problem to fix and it would be cruel to tell your DH that you've been lusting after someone else. If it was symptomatic of boredom, unhappiness or dissatisfaction with your life or your relationship and, now that the EA is over, you're still bored, unhappy or dissatisfied.... then you're going to have to tackle the source, whatever it is.

No don't tell him unless you are prepared for him to leave you, sorry but how can he be your best friend when you've been having an affair, be it sexual, emotional, it's still an affair.

You need to seriously ask yourself if you are actually with the right man.