My husband turned 30 on Saturday.
In the run up to his birthday I'd been arranging loads, taking him away with friends (had paid deposits to go to Marrakech) and his gifts....
But he kept saying he didn't want a fuss and wanted to treat it like a normal day.
So I cancelled everything, made a jar up of 150 reasons I love him, got our daughters to make him something, booked a trip for the two of us at the end of February to stay in a four star hotel in a city he specifically said he wanted us to go to, but made it clear I can change it for something else, for the money it's cost we could easily go abroad just the two of us for the same money. Got him something for his camera he wanted, and something for his phone (which doesnt work so need to send back).
After making him breakfast we went out, he helped me practice driving and took us to a restaurant for dinner. I litterally only £30.43 a week at the moment, so I'd been saving from before I lost my bar job, I start full time work later this week.
But now he's saying he's too embarassed to tell any one it was his birthday, because it was shit and no one cares about him. But if he hadn't kept going on about not wanting a fuss he would have seen all his friends for a meal on the day and then we'd have gone away for a couple of nights and stuff....
And now I'm really upset. I feel like I let him down and judged the situation wrong. Normally when I go against something he's speciffically said he doesn't want he gets grumpy...