Unsupportive friends - why?

[hoolagirl]

Right, this is really bugging me!
I am soooo happy, I am finaly going for my breast augmentation 1 week tomorrow, this is something that I have wanted for around 15 years and now I can finally afford it, plucked up courage to do something about it etc.
Anyone that knows me, knows how much I want this.
2 of my closest friends now refuse to discuss it with me other than speak to me like an imbecile if I mention it.
Why can't they be happy for me and be supportive, they were absolutely all for the idea for the years I have been banging on about it, now its happening its like they are in a huff !! WTF is going on !!!!

maybe you've been 'banging on' about it to the point where they're just bored?

maybe you should ask them why they've changed their attitude. i can understand that you must be a bit anxious and want to feel supported. sounds like there could be an underlying reason if they've both started acting oddly. in what way do thy treat you like an imbecile? can you give an example?

how old are you/ they- just out of curiosity.

Maybe they think you don't need it?

bj, i thought that too, but noticed that they used to be supportive- according to op.

We are all in our thirties.
I haven't been banging on about it religiously, its just something i've always wanted, which they know.
I'm pretty hurt by the attitude from them.
Treating me like an imbecile, an example would be asking me whether or not I know something really basic about the procedure, i will reply yes, you know i've been reading up on this for years, and they still feel the need to explain in as much limited detail as they know.
Its the attitude really that hurts me!

is it possible they have strong views on cosmetic surgery and they don't want to voice them for fear of upsetting you, but they're finding it hard to support what you're doing because they don't agree with it iykwim?

I think cosmetic surgery is one of those subjects that people either think is right, or wrong, there's no inbetween, and breast augmentations don't exactly get good publicity in the press, maybe it seemed like a good idea at the time when it wasn't actually going to happen, but now that the reality is here, they have to admit to themselves that actually they're not as enthused as you are.

They ought to talk to you and not talk down to you like an idiot.

Its no excuse for their behaviour at all but maybe they feel that this augmentation will not give you a lasting solution if you were say to have issues with self image. Not suggesting that this is the case in your circumstances at all but they have known you for a long time and may be thinking along these lines. They may feel that in time you'll want more surgery.

Thanks, i'll talk to them about it, I was just pretty disappointed/suprised by them i guess.
Especially when one of them went a couple of years ago for a consultation for a different procedure and then didn't go through with it, I thought i would have got some support.
I don't really have issues with my self image, other than having never liked my boobs and then finding them intolerable after pregnancy/nursing.
Oh and my jelly belly, but i won't be able to see that when my boobs are done

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can i be really nosey and ask: how big are you now, and how big will you be afterwards? you don't want to end up like jordan!

still, even if you did, if you were a real-life friend of mine (if you know what i mean) i'd say it was your descision and try to be supportive, even if i didn't necessarily agree with the op itself. i mean, you're having breast augmentation, right? not brain augmentation. you're still going to be the same person afterwards....

Im not even expecting 'great' tits, i mean they're not miracle workers, just a bit bigger so im in proportion.
They're is no way i want to end up like Jordon, think of the cost of the bra's and the backache !
I don't want my life to change, its great as it is, it will just make a big difference to ME personally iykwim.
They know what it means to me, the mean buggers!