Hi, I would be grateful for some advice please. My ex and I are amicably separated and almost divorced. We have 3 children that he doesn't see much of because he works long hours. He lives in a flat about 10 minutes walk away. He sees them at the weekends, but if he comes to see them after work, he is always harping on about how it's 'a flying visit,' because 'Daddy has things to do,' (another annoyance-his referring to himself in the third person! Our children are at secondary school, so I find it very patronising).i haven't raised the issue with him and haven't mentioned it to the children, but the other night, he really shot himself in the foot. After being here for about half an hour, he said, ' I'd better be getting back soon, I have a baked potato waiting for me.' I was astounded by this comment. Then my 14 year old daughter put my thoughts into words. She said, 'so you're saying that your baked potato is more important than us?' He didn't really respond. But what she said absolutely hit the nail on the head. He is always thinking of himself over them. He does work late, but surely he should understand that his children need to know that they are a priority? On the evenings that he comes over , he should just get himself a takeaway and not keep going on about how he's always tight for time. How unimportant must that make them feel? I am having a talk with him tonight , to make him aware of what he's doing and it's potentially damaging affects on our children.