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I finally left

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Lula2515 · 10/01/2015 19:21

I finally left my partner.
Left with my son on Thursday night to my mums. Was devastated as I was leaving but he's been texting me since I've left telling me I'm a bad parent and that I've ruined our family. I tried to make things work for so long. The final row was because he was sat there tweeting a page 3 girl whilst I was sat there with our baby. We haven't had sex since August because he couldn't think of anything worse than sleeping with me because I put him under so much pressure.
I'm mostly rambling on here because I'm trying to get myself from texting him. Haven't heard from him since yesterday morning. Text him last night letting him know the baby was ok and still no reply.
So sad.

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FolkGirl · 10/01/2015 19:22

Well done, you. You are amazing. Grin

FolkGirl · 10/01/2015 19:23

Probably should have been a Smile instead. oops sorry. Just want you to know that however sad you feel now, you have made the right decision. I wish I'd gone sooner.

TongueBiter · 10/01/2015 19:24

Well done. That was the hardest part. Sending you strength and support x

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Lula2515 · 10/01/2015 19:24

Thank you xxxxx I'm trying to feel strong but keep having a wobble about things.

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FolkGirl · 10/01/2015 19:25

The wobble is normal. It will come and go. You won't always feel strong. But you are strong. That's why you did it.

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Lula2515 · 10/01/2015 19:27

I hope I keep being strong. I have to go back to the flat tomorrow as have an appointment on Monday morning. My mum is going to look after the baby for me and we're going to talk. I'm sure he thinks I will apologise for leaving and grovel to come back...that is what I would have done before. That's not going to happen. I just hope I stay as strong as my head is right now.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 10/01/2015 19:45

If you want to stay strong and not be persuaded into anything then suggest you don't talk to him yet now. Get your stuff, make the clean break and simply tell him that you'll be in touch when you're more settled about how things are going to work. In the meantime ask him to respect your privacy

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Lula2515 · 10/01/2015 20:26

I agree that tomorrow is too soon but I need to stay there so we may as well discuss things.
As I'm leaving the baby at my mums I need to leave to come back

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thisisnow · 10/01/2015 20:53

Well done Lula on getting away. Good idea leaving the baby with your Mum that way you won't be tempted to stay there with him

TongueBiter · 11/01/2015 15:44

How are things now?

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