Is anyone else an introvert who struggles with family visits?

[roland83]

Simply that.

Just got through Christmas, found it nice but stressful and draining.

Now I have my mum, who lives abroad, inviting herself for more stays this year.

Firsty, it's my partners house too and he also isn't keen on visitors. Secondly, I feel like my opinion doesn't matter and thirdly, I can't help it but I just don't want it...

I feel terrible and that maybe I upset my mum earlier by being so non-commital, but it's stressing me out and I don't know how to manage it. I feel guilty saying no to mum, feel stressed because I'm self employed and feel awkward asking/telling my partner that another stay has been planned.

It never used to be like this, but she moved abroad, is unhappy and I think this is her time to get away and relax almost.. but it's not relaxing for me.

I just want to get my routine back, get a lot of work done and get my savings sorted out so we can buy a house. I feel like I'm responsible for her happiness in some ways.

AIBU?

I don't know really (helpful!)

I can understand your point of view, but I can't help thinking that she's your mum, not just some random distant cousin from years ago. How long is she intending staying for?

I don't think you're being unreasonable, maybe point out to your mum that you didn't get enough work done over Christmas and New Year and really need a few months to get back on track.
You love her lots, but bills need paid so the next visit needs to be late spring/summer unless she wants to organise a hotel/bnb for herself, and then of course you'd manage to make time for a couple of afternoon coffee trips.