abusive ex new gf

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his dv convictions are on the web for all to see. should i alert her to them. i dont know her, just saw her on fb. he wull come after me if he knows its me. his violence was also sexual, she has young daughters. i feel such a coward.

Cogito, thanks for your explanation. So she should now challenge the decision made by the judge? On what grounds? That she is scared?

On the matter of informing his current girlfriend, my instinct is it would be best to contact social services about your concerns. I'm afraid this is out of your hands and you should get involved. You would put yourself in danger and he is wicked enough to turn the tables on you and accuse you of harassing him.

The OP cannot get a restraining order as they are only imposed as part of criminal proceedings in the criminal court. She can apply for a civil non molestation order. She also cannot "challenge the judgement" of a criminal court. Only CPS can appeal in those circumstances and cps appeals are very, very rare and reserved for the more seriously lenient sentences

I do wish that people that have no idea what they are talking about would stop trying to give legal advice

the legal process is very stringent and an eye opener when u go through it.truffle is absolutely correct. there is much more to my story, horrific but i cant post it here.

newrule ur so right about him turning the tables, hed love to c me in court as the accused!

i also have recordings of him admitting to beating him up. clares law is fine but what woman in the honeymoon period would think of asking police about their boyfriends dv convictions?

Relay your concerns through Social Service if you are sure your anonymity will be protected.

As far as contacting her directly, preserving your anonymity aside, I think it's highly unlikely that she would listen, even if you were to give her or link her to his criminal record. How many women have thought 'I can change him' or 'He won't be that way with me'. He'd also swear 20 ways to Sunday that you lied & he was falsely convicted. Best to let the authorities handle it.

acrossthepond, yes im sure id be the crazy ex and she would go on the defensive. i will have a think about ss. as for the conviction, he pleaded guilty so he cant talk his way out of that.

I would ask to speak to your local police adult protection unit (who deal with Clare's Law disclosure) in relation to your concerns.

Hi,
I'm in no position to give advice on your situation, I'm only sorry you went through all that.

I just wanted to say be very careful when stalking your ex on FB and be sure to block him now you have done it.

I only say that because if you have looked at his profile, you are then likely to appear in his "people you may know" feed even if you don't have any mutual friends.

Hope it all goes well

truffle do you mean speak to police in new gf area? what can i ask them?

justalover i blocked him ages ago and looked him up using a generic account. thanks for the tip x

Just say that you have concerns about his new girlfriend and her children due to your ex's previous domestic violence, give them as much info as you can about her so they can identify her and decide whether to disclose to her

truffle i thought that disclosure had to be initiated by the woman and police could not disclose without her asking for it first?

I think there are circs where it can be done the other way round should there be concerns for safety. I dont have much to do with CL disclosure but it would be worth checking it out.

Agree with others that disclosing to her via FB is unlikely to get a good reaction

'stop trying to give legal advice'

With respect, I suggested that the OP should go back to a lawyer. I mentioned restraining orders and challenging judgements as a personal speculation. Whatever the solution, the current situation is unjust