It was either this or Jeremy Kyle!

[NKfell]

Hi everybody, this is my first post so please be gentle with me!

I just wanted some advice because I feel like my life is turning into something from the Jeremy Kyle show.

I know I going to waffle but I'll do my best- I wasn't with my bf long before I was pregnant in 2009, after 2 years I realised he was cheating on me. I love him very much so for that stupid reason I then became pregnant again with him in 2012 but I didn't get back with him.

I then didn't see him much- his/my family either picked the kids up or dropped them off so he's always had them 1-2 nights a week since they were born. He always seemed very sad and sorry etc. when we did meet.

Lot's of stuff has happened and in October we slept together then agreed to take it slow (a bit late I know). Beginning of December I realised I was pregnant again.

I just feel so stressed out, I'm 25 and help?!

Thank you for reading and sorry for going on a bit!

Everything kaykay said.

And quit with the feeling sorry for yourself. You made your choices, it's your parents and kids that are paying the price.

At this point your poor parents are probably despairing, wondering if there'll ever be an end to this farce of a relationship and the help they'll be expected to provide or are you going to continue popping out kids every few years in the hope he'll suddenly morph into Prince Charming.

This is going to sound awful to some, but for the sake of your parents and your children, there's no way I'd personally continue with the pregnancy. Then focus on getting your priorities straight and giving yourself and your children the best possible life.

It really isn't harsh because I know it's all my fault and I need to work out a way to move forward. I've only just opened my eyes in the past week or so.

The contraception issue- I'm on the pill then stop taking it because I think what's the point I don't really see anyone or if I do go on the odd date I don't go 'there'. Then he comes along and I act like I'm the lucky one.

I live in an ideal location to raise children, lakes and fells are on our doorstep. It's so expensive because everyone thinks so and it's full of second homes and holiday lettings. I feel like my children might lose out by moving to a large town though. I promise I do have my children in mind with most of my decisions just not when it comes to their father.

I just wanted to add that I'm 14 weeks so the baby is staying God willing.

I know it's far from ideal but for me personally the other hasn't been an option.

My parents say they're happy to take care of them and enjoy it but, the kids are in bed by 7:30 so then they're just sat in my house until midnight and I do hate that.

If you don't consider abortions an option for you, then you need to do some serious work on your attitude to contraception, or this will keep happening.

I commend the fact that you're a youngish single mum to two DC, and you work to support them, but that doesn't mean you can't do things better.

There's no point feeling sorry for yourself over choices you've already made, they're done and you can't change them, but you can learn from them. Work on being the person you want to be and start making more mature decisions. What would you do differently if you didn't have your parents to fall back on? You need to step up and take responsibility for your own life, stop relying on a man to change in order for you to be happy, make your own happiness.

I know and I know I can do it, I just need to wake up.

I'm off work today and the kids are with him so I'll have an opportunity to have a good talk to my parents. His parents have offered to do more so I might explore that and I need to find somewhere to live.

I think letting go of him will be the hardest thing but maybe after speaking with my parents I'll feel better.

I do feel better now and I'm glad I joined- I appreciate all comments so thank you.