domestic abuse

[pnutter]

Having left an abusive relationship im finding it hard going. Social services calling saying they are supporting me but in reality im alone. Domestic abuse group locally don't answer my emails. Everyone keeps saying I'm vulnerable but still not much in the way of support. Feeling sorry for myself sorry !

Packing up the things he left

Put them away out of sight. Can you rearrange the furniture a bit - do it how you'd like it done? How about getting your hair cut differently? Start being the new woman you want to be - bit by bit, take some control back. Think about things you might enjoy doing that you haven't had a chance to do before - reading? swimming? invite some friends over for lunch?

You're doing really well, keep taking those baby steps.

Thanks all..funnily enough I am rearranging my bedroom . And the charity shop will get a few bags

We get so used to thinking about them, that thinking about ourselves feels a little strange at first.

But thinking about what YOU want, and how YOU feel can become a habit too, and it already is. Now think about it all being taken away again.

Maybe you don't miss him quite so much in those moments.

Thank you

Still haven't had any contact from the professionals supposed to be supporting me but I'm doing ok. Getting locks changed tomorrow and he has found somewhere to live. Packed up his stuff. Enjoying the freedom to be me. I do get mood swings where I suddenly feel I can't cope but I'm quite pleased with myself generally .

You will cope, PNut. Keep thinking positively about the good things you can do now, the freedom you have. Get out in the fresh air when you can and look forwards to the new life you're starting.

Keep posting on here too, we're with you.