Hi all, Iv been wanting to get advice for a while now but kept shrugging it off thinking it will all get better.
Back in October just gone on our fifth year anniversary my husband told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore. It was completely random and he wasn't even angry when he said it. At first I thougt it was a sick joke and laughed and said okay mr whatever you say, but then he repeated it an he looked really stressed out and sad. After a few moments to think I then asked him what had brought this on but then things have been a bit odd for a while now I guess. I mean we would cuddle and still kiss (pecks) but our sex life was not what it used to be. When we first got married and right up until my first child was 2 things were great in that department but slowly changed to about once a week which is okay I guess but nothing compared to what we were. Anyway our marriage in other ways was fine. Our sex life used to about three times a wee when we were trying for our second and I got pregnant pretty quickly, we were happy. But when I started to get more pregnant things got bad again but I put it down to him stressing over university and what not. Anyway long story short is that shortly after our second was born he wouldn't come near me..I lost all my baby weight after only four months and always try with my appearance and make an effort with everything. Anyway..after this day of telling me he didn't love me he said he was red to try and bring the love back and started to become quite clingy and cuddly, it was very odd, he seemed depressed and I honestly put it down to that because how can things change like this? Anyway after a week things were still the same and I was becoming very depressed and heart broken and he told me he did love me and that he was just stressed out with things. I accepted and things are fine I guess but he doesn't come near me in the bedroom but still cuddles me here and ther. I can't remember the last time we kissed properly and well I can't help but feel that my feelings are starting to change for him because he's pushing me away so much and I can't get those words out my head. Also this is a bit cheeses but when we were going through our bad patch input his hand on my chest and asked if he could feel my heart, he said yes and I told him it only beats for him. I asked him how that made him feel and he said I feel nothing. :( anyway..just looking for some advice because I don't know what to do to make it better. Everything I try to talk to him and tell him how I feel he says he's sorry and will try harder but doesn't. He's a wonderful dad to our two daughters but I feel he doesn't try with us anymore.
Sorry for the rant and thanks in advance x