Pregnant from affair...

[JustJules1234]

I left DH for another man 6 months ago. We have two young children.

There were problems in our marriage, and I fell in love with OM. I deeply regret not trying harder to save my marriage and am racked with guilt towards DH and DC to the point it's making me feel ill.

I've been living with OM for a few months and have just found out I'm pregnant.. OM is really happy but I'm totally confused. I would like to give my marriage another go for the sake of my DC, and DH has said the same. I do still love DH and he loves me.

OM is completely against abortion, he is also quite volatile, so it would cause untold damage if he were to know I had ended the pregnancy.

I'm really desperate.. I don't know if it's the pregnancy hormones, or guilt, I've made some massive mistakes and can't see a way out.

You shouldn't be with a volatile man, full stop.
It's a personal decision, but I'd end the pregnancy.
It's not a planned pregnancy and will tie you to a volatile man.
As you're scared of his reaction, tell him it was a miscarriage. (If you have a medical termination, they are exactly the same drugs as I had to bring on a missed miscarriage. It will look the same, though obviously don't tell him about the drugs!)

Then, do not go racing back to your husband. Take some time alone to work out if it is guilt or love and regret. If it's guilt, you'll just do it again, and/ or make everyone unhappy.

Have you got your kids living with Mr Volatile?

Is there any way you can get away on your own for a few days? Sounds like you are being pulled in all directions and how can you decide what's best? A termination is a big decision to make and can't see how you can decide when all this turmoil is going on. Please don't go back to your husband yet, your affair happened for whatever reason. No real advice except getting away from everyone to head sort.

I would be worried that you are wanting to go back to your dh as the 'safer' option.

You really need to do what Anyfucker said, spend some time alone without a man.

Please think very carefully.