My dp was always a moody guy.it never bothered me that much. I would just leave him to it and do my own thing while he was in a mood. He'd usually come out of it a few hrs later. However after dc1 was born (3yrs ago) his moods became very dark. He would often lash out at me for no reason (verbal, never ever violent) close himself into a room for hours on end playing computer games... Oh and let's not forget the silent treatment, :(
It bothered me a lot (made me really really sad) but with a baby together I stuck by him (it wasn't always bad).
Dc 2 was born last spring and things had got v bad. However dp himself realised he couldn't live like this anymore and went to gp. He was diagnosed with biological depression and is now on anti deps and doing cbt.
Things had been going well and I'm proud of him for trying to improve things for himself and for us. However... Christmas has been tough. Again I feel like I am walking on eggshells around him. He ruined at least 3 or 4 different events for me that I had been looking forward to. I also am starting to see the effects of his moods on our 3 yr old which breaks my heart.
The moods however are much less frequent and shorter, but still.
So... My question I suppose is... When does supporting your partner through depression and the associated dark angry moods become being stuck in a miserable relationship? I was very lucky to have a very happy childhood with parents who still today have a happy balanced healthy relationship. I want that for my kids and feel like I (and the kids) could still be going through this same awfulness in 5 years time with the ups and downs of dp's depression ... Tonight I want to leave him- I think God it'd be so much jollier if it was just me and the little ones here without him being such a dark cloud here and snapping at us all the time. But then I think it's an illness and he is only learning through his cbt how to cope and manage his moods...
Any thoughts would be welcome. Thanks.