I'm fighting a strong urge to end things with my boyfriend of 5 months and I don't know if I'm being hormonal or if I have a point.
I wouldn't usually put anything down to to being hormonal, I've never been one to suffer for PMT but I am trying a new birth control and I have found the last couple of periods to be very emotional.
Reasons I don't want to dump my boyfriend...
First four months were fantastic
Lots of chemistry
Very compatible ITO views on life and future goals
Lots of fun
Great sex
We've had v similar experiences in our previous relationship and seem to understand each other's fears and vulnerabilities
He's generally really thoughtful and tactile and makes me feel great
He hasn't met my DD yet but we often speak of this happening in the future. He initiates a lot of this. He talks as though he wants a future. He even bought her a little Xmas present
Bit of background...He has had a horrendous time at work during this last month. He has an stressful job and only had one day off over Christmas. He is under a lot of pressure and also has been ill during the last week.
Understandably, communication and number of meet ups has really decreased. We used to send several texts during the day and speak most nights. At least one of the two nights DD is with her dad would involve an overnight stay for us and a couple of times a week, he would come over to see me, even if it was only for 20 minutes
Last 3/4 weeks, we've seen each other once a week due to his work. He rarely messages during the day now but I send one nice message most days because he told me it makes him smile. We tend to have a little conversation most nights when he's got home late. I'm trying to be supportive and not add to the pressure on him.
This situation is going to remain like this for another 5 weeks
Reasons I am thinking of dumping him...
I can't tell if the lack of contact is busyness or growing ambivelence
He doesn't have time to say hi to me but he does check facebook
The other week, we had a few glasses of wine, he was telling me how much he appreciated my support, how wonderful the last few months had been and how wonderful I am. I told him I was falling inlove with him. He said he wasn't ready to say that yet as its a massive step for him but that he thinks the world of me bla bla bla.
There have been opportunities over the last couple of weeks to stay over after work but he has opted to go home and sleep in his own bed to get sleep (maybe I'm being really pathetic there).
I feel like it's all one sided the last few days but wonder if that's because I just need to be supportive?
Last night I went out with friends. About 1am, my friend and her husband rowed and I lost them. I was in a town I don't know very well and needed to get to their house. I was a bit stumped. I sat down to call them and Whatsapp other friends to find out where they are. I saw he was online so messaged him and told him what was happening! Not as a damsel in distress flare but more of a "FFS! Listen to this" message. He just said "be safe" and hasn't messaged to find out if I got home Ok.
I have discovered that he has hidden his POF profile but not deleted it
I just think self preservation might need to kick in here. Thoughts please?