After finally splitting with my BF for lots of reasons in feeling like he is worming his way back in and it's so hard to stay strong! I wish things could be different between us but I have now come to terms with the fact the relationship is never going to make me happy and I need it over!
My main reasons for ending it are:
The way he behaved and treated me when I feel pregnant planned!
His drinking that he promised he would address/deal with a year ago, he did for a few weeks then slipped back into his old ways!
The huge issue around sex, been problem for 2 years he won't address it, thinks as long as he tells me to roll over "and I will stick it in the back of you" for a few minutes (before I lose my erection) every few months cuts it!
No intimacy at all, no kidding/cuddles etc
Always puts his exw and son way before our baby, would not attended any of our baby's hospital appointments for health issues but will drop everything to make sure he is there for his sons school/health etc meetings
Wouldn't look after our baby for a few hours when 5 weeks old and I was to ill to get out of bed but will drop everything to look after his son if his ex is ill (even when her younger dc from her current marriage is ill he has dropped everything to go there)
Realizing my older dc's have noticed his drinking..... I do not want them growing up in that environment!
Arguing when he is drunk why I won't let him carry baby upstairs etc!
I do NOT want the children growing up thinking this is normal!
I actually do not trust him to look after baby alone!
These are just a few reasons why I ended the relationship, I honestly tried my hardest to make it work for over a year now, but i can not change him, it's something he has to want to do himself!
Please all tell me these are valid reasons and that him doing the right thing, I need help to stay strong, he is now acting like I haven't finished it and all is fine..... ITS NOT
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He is trying to worm himself back in!!!!!
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Namechangeragain1234 · 02/01/2015 11:27
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