Boyfriend's comment - red flag or overthinking

[AgainstTheWind]

Chatting to my boyfriend last night and he referred to a woman he knew in his teens as 'a gorgeous piece'.

I think it was just a turn of phrase more than anything and it's not bothering me as such but I don't think I would be that impressed if he referred to me as a 'piece'.

Not sure if I spend too much time on here and it might be a red flag or if I'm overthinking it.

Personally, unless he concerns you in other ways, I wouldn't worry about it.

A "right piece" was northern teen girl slang for a fit bloke in the 1500s when I was a teenager

If he's northern, maybe it's that. Any other concerns?

I only know piece as in 'right piece of work'.

I wouldn't like it but on it's own don't see it as a large red flag.

Doesn't bother me.

For me, gorgeous people are a whole package, including their personality and objectifying them sexually.

University rugby lads use piece today to mean fit and sexy. Piece of ass is where it came from - teenage years consuming American media.

I was caught up in the conversation at the time so it didn't really register what he had said until afterwards.

I am not going to challenge him on it now as I do think it was just a turn of phrase for him. He's not sexist although he does make it obvious that he finds women's bodies a turn on rather than just finding someone attractive.

I won't be dumping him over it but I will say something to him if he says anything like that again.

I agree that it is a sexist phrase and does objectify women a bit.

I think it is just a phrase even if it seems a bit dated now. He doesn't view women just on their looks although he has said things like 'too skinny for me' and 'not my type' so I know he puts emphasis on looks but you presumably wouldn't go out with someone you didn't fancy so the attraction is important. Those comments were said ages before we started seeing each other.

He is probably a little backwards in his thinking and does hold a few old fashioned views but I think that is an age thing.

I am laughing my head off at the idea that being a "fully paid up member of the MN feminism board" (whatever the hell that is!!) offers total immunity to criticism! What a crock of shit!!

Anyway op, I think it's an old fashioned phrase said by an older man and it wouldn't bother me too much if he shows no other arse-ish traits

Overthinking.