I went once last October and it was rubbish for me, but that was because UH was past help and didn't care less about our relationship. The counsellor herself seemed very nice and the LAST thing she was interested in was ripping anyone to bits. She pointed out that we had to live our lives without her so she wasn't there to interfere, but to help us deal with each other ourselves. There's nothing to worry about but because they don't rip people to shreds, if your DP wants to be awkward, there's not a lot they can do to stop him.