After speaking to my friend who has had some difficulties getting her Exp to accept it is over I suggested to her to post here as I know there are some women who have had similar issues.
Some background.
They were seeing each other for about 2 years, not living together. He has a ds and so does she of similar age.
She knew things weren't quite right after about a year when she started noticing that his parenting was lacking. His son has had some emotional problems and has been known to steal, lie, lose his temper and hit out at children including her son. Her Exp's reaction to these episodes were not helping his son and he would ignore it or play it down "boys will be boys" and "thats just children".
She brought these issues up with him but was met with silent acceptance but no change or reaction. Over time she began to dislike the son and became disappointed in her Exp. This grew until she realised that she didn't want to be with him anymore. She tried to work things out, offer suggestions to get help for him and his boy. Other friends of his noticed and pointed out similar things to him.
This had no affect. In August this year, she texted him after an unsuccessful day out to say she didnt want to be with him anynore. Since then he has had periods of about three weeks of no contact and then an evening of constant texts where she will have had to tell him to leave her alone. He kept refeing to meeting up but she has declined. He has also mentioned not being able to live any longer without her.
It stepped up a little yesterday with him texting her to say either she met him or he would turn up at the house. She called him to stop this and during the conversation it came to light that he has been following her and waiting at the station after work. He doesn't really have any need to be in the area for other reasons.
He has asked her to meet tonight but he still wanted it to be on his terms and even though she has family visiting, expected her to drop everything.
He has let her know that his son has been getting some emotional help from school and that he is changing how he parents and accepts he was wrong, but he seems to think that if he solves the problems she will have him back. She does not love him or want him anymore. She is concerned about the following and I am concerned that he doesn't accept her no. She is anxious and feels sick about meeting him as it might be a waste of time but there is a hope that he will listen this time. She doesnt really want to go.
I have suggested to her that if she does meet him that I can drop her off and pick her up as he had wanted to drive her. My spidey senses are tingling.
So.... if you think she should go, how should she handle it because he doesn't seem to listen to what she says and thinks she owes it to him to give him another chance.
Or... if you think she shouldn't go, what do you suggest she does to end this all once and for good whilst keeping herself safe?
I know this is a long one, thank you for reading, we could really do with your help. Thank you in advance.