Bit of background, was with partner of 13 years up until 3 years ago,no Dcs, he left for OW hit me hard, ads, couldn't work for six months.
Tried OD earlier this year met a nice guy not exactly what I would look for in a man but I thought he was kind, fun and loyal. Been dating for seven months, I've taken it very slowly to the point that when he stayed for Xmas was the first time he had been to my home!
We've spent lots of time together gone on holidays supported each other, we have both agreed to be exclusive, he's 33 and I'm a little older at 36, he's quite immature in many ways, has lots of younger friends,was living at home until very recently, has been in the same low paid job for 8 years but I do love spending time with him.
I had a feeling recently that he might have been telling fibs, just a feeling that I had so while he was here at Xmas I checked his phone, and found some texts to a female friend of his where he had gone to London to a gig and out for a meal with her while he told me he was at a friends house locally, she had also gone round to his new flat and cooked him
A meal, he had told me a male friend had gone round for the evening.
They were also due to go out for a meal on Monday but she cancelled on him last minute, he told me nothing about it.
He knows how I feel about lying and because of what happened in the past I am a bit nervous about female friends although I would never stop him seeing them. I'm thinking perhaps he didn't want to tell
Me for that reason, or is he just another sodding scumbag?
How do I broach this? As He will know I've looked at his phone? Should I just keep an eye on things? Or dump now?
It's bought a lot of painful memories back I couldn't sleep at a last night and today I just have a knot in my stomach