OK, hi everyone, I have been a mumsnet lurker for some time now. I finally decided I had to comment/post as this place has been an unending source of comfort and at times trauma with so many people going through similar things as I. Its a long long story so I will edit it a bit. Had an abusive stepfather, sorted that. (in the sense I outed him but was not believed hence no family now) Had a successful marriage (for a while) ended that (I was stupid and young) In my late thirties decided to have a career change but lo and behold given I seem to have "arseholes welcome" on my forehead, no doubt from my background of abusive childhood, I met Mr love bomb, narcissistic, misogynist. (apologies for bad grammar and spelling, Im currently pished as a fart). So had a lovely DD who is brilliant. Then came the abuse, the split (or abandonment), the bad mother insults, the custody fight (that didn't happen) so I ran away to London to save myself and my DD. To what, yes another twat! this time I thought OK he is harmless, spineless, but harmless. no. last week after five years he decided to punch me and strangle me in front of my DD. so he has been kicked to the side. (I did not fight back because I knew it would not end well). So now I am now a lone parent, no money, no family (I threatened to shoot them on fb which doesn't bode well for sympathy) yes I do have problems lol. So here I am feeling rather sorry for myself but reading all the things on here it has made me realise that there seems to be a lot of arseholes about. a lot. Where have all he good men gone? I was a fool most of my life, I am a good person. I don't take shit and have never hesitated to get rid of the rubbish in my life, no matter the cost, and believe me the cost is high now. I am stuck in London on my own, skint, and alone. but. I must add. I got rid of the rot before it got any further. I regret ending my marriage in the twenties because he was a good man I was just too messed up to see. So when I see these young things on here saying, but I cant leave him, its me!, etc. it makes my heart hurt. What has happened? is there a war on women? why are we putting up with this? why are men like this? is it a generational thing? are we as mothers to blame? I have found this place to be a source of comfort in my darkest days as I lurk and listen to everyone. but come on? what is going on? I have decided to fuck men off and go it alone as alone parent, my ideals of a good family, husband and children are gone, just like my pert tits! so hi everyone and I hope I don't come across as an idiot, just a drunken good hearted scots girl who has fucked up so much, I am full of wisdom now ( I wish). Are there any good men out there, or are we in dangerous times with a war against women?