I'm scared. I thought we would always be together. I thought he would change.
I have stuck by him through 25 years of major ups and downs. Over the years his jealousy, controlling abusive nature has ground me down. I was once full of life, bubbly and outgoing. I am now anxious, worrier and have lost my zest for enjoying life.
We have had 2 years of couples counselling which helped me with anxiety issues but didn't help us as a couple.
A few months ago I told him I couldn't go on anymore like this and he agreed that he would find somewhere to live. Which he has and he can move in to it in a few weeks.
In the meantime he has changed. And the changes are massive. All for the better. However do I take the risk that it will last? Why didn't he make these changes before? When we started counselling why didn't he try then 2 years ago.
I just feel so let down. I don't want to be suckered back in only to be let down again. Is it possible for someone to change to that extent.
We have 2 grown up DC.
He has previously called me names including c**t, slag, bitch. Accused me of having affairs. Lazy, told me I'm only with him for money. It's all rubbish.
He is worse when he's had a drink. He punches walls and throws things.
He has cut down on his drinking, he is calmer and much more chilled out. But is it because he us losing control. He starts his own counselling next week.
What do u lovely people think I should do?