This thread is about me and my brother, with whom I have a complex love/ 'hate' or should I say love/ clash relationship. We are both strong fiery characters but have clashed big time over the past months, with things being currently at an all time low.
My lovely granny died earlier in the month and we've only just had her funeral. Before she died we were both power of attorney for health and welfare and now we are both executors.
He has stayed in my home for 5 days over Xmas- since the funeral. He finds where we live very parochial compared to his London lifestyle but he doesn't drive so he was pretty much stuck in our semi rural home.
He has such an extrovert, big, opinionated, loud personality. He has a naturally show offy nature and can be very condescending. He tries to impose his tastes on others and is very very messy. He is a great cook but makes a huge mess and rarely clears anything up. He is like a man child, loafing around drinking vast quantities and acting like a big kid. I have loads of affection for him, but can only take him in small doses.
I did the lion's share of the funeral prep and feel that dh and I were deprived of family down time between funeral and Xmas.
By the time Xmas day came I was ready to murder him, tbh.
We now face the new year as joint executors and trustees of my gran (moderate sized) estate. I am simply dreading it. Most of the estate will be held in trust till my mum dies with us deciding on investments!!
He badgers and persists when he wants to state his view and he always makes snap decisions. I am a deep thinker and much more reflective, wishing to take time over big decisions ( eg deciding whether gran had lost mental capacity) and we clash routinely over decision making.
How on earth am I going to survive the next few months? How will my relationship with my bd survive?
Advice?