He's back.

[emmalouise1091]

Hi everyone. I posted a few months ago about my fiancé who left me whilst I was 20 weeks pregnant. The baby is now due in roughly two weeks. He got back in contact with me on Christmas Day saying he loves me and wants to see the baby and that we should be together. When we split up he said he had no interest in seeing the baby and had a new girlfriend within a few days of us splitting.
Basically I'm wondering what would you do? Should I try again with him and give him the benefit of the doubt or just forget him. I feel so guilty because If I don't try it's my fault my daughter won't have her mum and dad together at any point in her life. Any advice appreciated.

He has let you down already and will do so again. That is not the role model you need for your daughter.

How is it your fault that he left you for another woman who has recently dumped him?
Do you really think that he wasn't chasing her when he was with you?

If he really gave a shit he would have realised his mistake a hell of a lot sooner.

He can still be a dad even if you are not together.

For yourself you don't need someone who will drop you and run the minute things get tough.

My best guess is that he felt lonely and had drunk a bit yesterday.
He won't show the necessary commitment.

But, at best, I'd give him a chance to be in the baby's life, spending a few hours weekly with the baby on his own, change a few nappies and so on, and see if he could stay in the long run.

Realistically, he is likely to take off again when responsibility knocks.

Your baby needs a stable family unit and a happy mother, not a shipwreck.

You said yourself you are happier on your own ..A happy mum is more important than a family unit that is not working.

I am glad your mum is going to be there. Say no and then see if he really is interested in your daughter when she arrives.