Anyone around? DP being a Christmas twat.

[Stepzsaz]

So basically he's had a drink.
I gave my lads a bottle of Christmas j2O each as it's Christmas Eve (we have 4). Dp kicks off saying two of them were meant for his kids who come on Boxing Day. I say that his youngest wouldn't want it (as he well knows) and his eldest drinks beer (of which we have loads in). He carries on acting all depressed saying i said 2 bottles were for his kids??!! I even said I'll go to shop Boxing Day to buy more but he carried it on anyway.

Now, I've been promising my son I'd watch a movie with him before Christmas Day. I put this movie on today knowing it would be finished by 6pm. As it finished I went to see dp (who had refused to watch the film and instead wanted to play on battlefield) asking if he'd be joining me in the living room anytime soon as it was Christmas Eve and I'd like his company to which he replied "oh? Didn't realise you'd been dumped? I want to play battlefield anyway, after that I might come and sit with you".

Ffs same old story, he's bitter and twisted that I live with my kids and he doesn't. Christmas Eve and he wants an argument.

[Stepzsaz]

Well he carried it on all night, he got worse until I almost cried. Worst Christmas Eve ever. Refused to help me sort the stockings out and spoke to me like shit until bedtime, all the while making out that it was ME with the problem and that it was ME that had started on him. I was nothing but nice to him all night, even when he was being a first class twat to me.
I'll remember this into the new year and I will look forward to seeing the back of him. He's like this quite often anyway but to do it on Christmas Eve is just unforgivable.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

What is the house and job situation?

Is it in your name and do you work? If he left (today for instance) would it cause financial issues?

Can you just tell him to lighten the fuck up or get the fuck out?

[kittybiscuits]

He's completely appalling OP. Well said rumred . He's not called Roger is he OP?

[Chottie]

Dear OP your DP has big, big problems and he sounds like he is using your (and your DCs) as his punch bag.

Your Christmas Eve sounds absolutely dire with all the joy sucked out of it. No one should be treated like this. I hope you find some resolution soon and that 2015 is the year that you and your DCs go forward and have happiness.

[ApocalypseThen]

He sounds like an extremely difficult person. I can't imagine what good it's doing you living with him. You have your kids, you don't need him and they certainly don't. Obviously this isn't the day for ultimatiums, but if you make up your mind right now that you won't pander to this creature another year and next Christmas, you will find it easier to tolerate for the next couple of days till you can tell him that he can take his moaning, unpleasant arse elsewhere and if he finds anyone to tolerate his horrible behaviour long term, good luck to them both. Hopefully she'll give him hell.

[HellKitty]

I want an update that you've kicked him out.

Please don't back down, especially if he's back to being in a great mood when his DCs come over. The mood won't last.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

If he is like this all the time, yes I would leave him.

If it's just over Christmas I would give some consideration to idea that he is maybe missing his kids at christmas although he should still treat you well.

[BingBongMerrilyOnHigh]

Hi OP. He sounds like a massive knob. You do know alcohol lowers your inhibitions, so what you saw last night when he'd had a drink, that was the real him. The one he's been keeping hidden because actually, it's not very nice.

Some PPs have said, make it a NY resolution to get rid of him - absolutely this. Hopefully next Christmas will be fun again - imagine what it will be like if you're still with him - the way you've described it, his behaviour has deteriorated from great to pretty poor over the past 3 years. Don't give him the chance to ruin another Christmas.

Hope you manage to have a good day with your DCs, try to look forward to better things to come.

[petalsandstars]

Give yourself the best - even if belated - Christmas present and dump his ass!

[EhricJinglingHisBallsOnHigh]

Ah thank god you have decided to bin the twat. He sounds utterly dreadful.

[ChippingInLovesChristmasLights]

Try to have a nice day with your kids. If he carries on being a monumental fuckwit, kick him out today. I think I'll hear your kids celebrating from here! No need to wait, he's an adult acting like a toddler, he can go find somewhere else to sulk.

[CaptainAnkles]

Be strong, remember how shitty he's made you feel for absolutely no reason, and follow through on getting rid of him. Don't let him ruin anymore special occasions with his twattitude. Merry Christmas to you and your DC.

[Hurr1cane]

Urgh. She shouldn't give him a break because he misses his kids, no.

DP is here for Christmas with me and my DS. He got back here from work at 4am this morning, had an hours sleep, got up and watched DS open presents, played a bit, then I sent him back to bed. I'm sure he misses his kids but we had a lovely morning.

Later DS will go to his dad's and we will both be alone at his parents.

Tomorrow DS will still be at his dad's and we will see his kids and I will miss mine. But I'll still have a lovely time with them. Then the poor man has to back to work at 4pm.

No excuse to be a dick at all. We just take the opportunity to have two brilliant Christmases.

[Hurr1cane]

Blended families can be lovely things if the people blending them aren't pricks (or one of them) you can find someone lovely who will make christmas brilliant for you all.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I didn't mean don't give him a break. I meant if he is usually lovely I wouldn't leave him if he was grumpy at xmas because he was missing his kids is all.

Urgh is not needed

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

If uurgh was directed at me

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

God I will start again. I didn't mean give him a break.

Just woke up.

[fixedit]

Jesus get rid, if he makes you feel like this imagine how your kids are feeling, I grew up in a shit atmosphere and it was Fucking awful. Kids notice everything.
New year, New start.
You don't need negative people in your life. he sounds like a right dickhead.

[FrogIsATwatInASantaHat]

Have a lovely day. Pretend he isn't there. Im sorry for my tough love approach last night. Two puking children didn't help my tolerance for twatty behaviour.
I do know how hard it is to leave. As I said I did 9 years. Im bitter at how much time I wasted
I don't want that to be you.

[Hissy]

i'd suggest this prick'd be sulky, grumpy or have some kind of issue regardless.

the timeframe fits with manipulative/abusive prick, the mask is slipping.

[flatbellyfella]

Did the mother of his children kick him in to touch three years ago , for acting like a sulky 2 year old ?