I'm not coping

[MsFriend]

I have a 3 yr old and an 18 month old. My 18 month old does not stop following me crying all day long. I give him games to play which last for about 5 minutes before he gets bored and IT starts again. I am so worn down with it that I am ashamed to say I have shouted at him a couple of times and told him to shut up. I hate myself for it. My partner is at work all day. Doesn't come home til after kids are in bed and I am basically a single mother. I told my mum how I was feeling overwhelmed today and i am struggling. She had four kids so her answer is.. Well I did it and no one helped me. I am literally sat here crying because he is just screaming for no reason. It's like chinese torture. What's wrong with me? Plus he wakes up 3 or 4 times a night still and I'm exhausted but no one seems to care.

[Fallandfly]

I understand how hard it is. My 4 year old still follows me around whining ! It's not selfish to need help or time for you. You need to askfor it clearly , family , partner, home start whoever can give you some relief. It is not a weakness but a necessity. Would you consider going back to work? It can be a lifeline having adult conversation and something else to focus on.

[thingswesaidtoday]

Well done with setting up nursery. That's a good start. Hope things will begin to improve for you now

[MsFriend]

Well it lasted a day. Again was up last night with son. I'm down here looking after kids while he is upstairs sleeping.
He has been pretty rude to me today also. I am starting to wonder if I even want to be here anymore.

[MsFriend]

can you get pnd 18 months after having a child?

[Quitelikely]

You need to tell your husband he has to actually take part in family life. He cannot just sleep it away. Why do t you go upstairs and tell him you need some rest too so can he get his lazy self downstairs with the dc?!

I'm wondering if he is causing you as many problems as the dc. He doesn't sound very supportive.

Does he do anything at all?

[MsFriend]

He seems to be doing less and less as the weeks go on. I look like an utter mess to the person he met and I wonder to myself how can he not look at me and see I need help.
I've told him tonight if he doesn't buck his ideas up then I would rather be on my own.

[FrancesNiadova]

Oh MS, what you are going through is so common place.
I think that your youngest might benefit from meeting other little
' uns a couple of mornings or afternoons per week.
Is there a nursery that you could enrol your little one in 1 or 2 mornings per week?
SAHM does not mean children's entertainer, child psychology expert & domestic goddess. I think that your Mum wears the Rose-Tinted Goggles of Time; she doesn't sound very forgiving either.
Let your little boy go to a nursery 1 or 2 mornings & see how he enjoys socialising with others; it might be what he's literally crying out for.
You will get just 1 or 2 sessions a week to be MS, and not perfect mother, perfect wife, paediatric nurse, domestic goddess, and so on.
Finally....Think about your Mum's response. Would you, in the future, respond to your son or daughter's cry for help in this way? No? Then perhaps she wasn't that fantastically perfect after all.....

[Jingalingallnight]

Why is your husband sleeping on a weekday afternoon? He's taking the mick!