How to deal with a very unexpected separation?

[TheDetective]

I was married 5 weeks ago. I was informed of my husbands infidelity the afternoon of my wedding.

How do I deal with letting people know I've separated?

I've just announced my pregnancy. I'm 13 weeks.

I don't know how the fuck to proceed with this.

I've given him the chance to prove himself the last 5 weeks but he failed miserably. I'm ready to say it is over.

I need to tell people because I can't carry on like things are normal. I'm still getting congratulation messages from people on my marriage.

I just want the world to know it is over, while remaining dignified.

If you don't email send a txt or a pm via Fb etc. Just get word out, you don't need to go into details.

They think you shoudl stay with a man who cheated on you and had miserably failed to make amends?

Hold onto your own mind here! you're quite right. tribpot's phrasing seems great.

Agree - I would actually tell a few people in writing (i.e. by private facebook message) that, unfortunately, you have decided to separate. That there are various issues that are unfortunately irresolvable and you have therefore had to end the marriage. I wouldn't get into details with anyone to be honest.

Ask them of they could spread the word in general conversation (i.e. no need to make an announcement in the staff canteen over the tannoy).

Say you are very sad understandably and just can't face talking about (so beaks out nosey parkers!) and, whilst you appreciate that everyone will be very concerned and sympathetic, you just can't bear to discuss it; particularly as you are pregnant and have to maintain your equilibrium as far as possible. If anyone approaches you to commiserate, just say a dignified "thank you" and change the subject.

Change your status on facebook and grit your teeth.

So sorry

I like Gobbolino's suggestion but you might not want everyone to leave you alone. I'd take any moral support, chcolate and bottles of wine from anyone who offers. I'd text or PM on facebook one key contact from each 'group' e.g. your mum, his family, friends from college (or wherever),work colleagues etc. Explain simply and ask them to pass the info on to the others in their group.

Dear Friend Very sadly xshit and I have decided to separate due to an ongoing situation that I was unaware of when we married. Of course this is a great shock to me and things are very difficult for me to talk about at the moment. I'd be very grateful if you could pass this news on to X,Y and Z

Good luck love.

Yes - that's very true haff re: support. I'm a bit weird in that I quite like to be left alone and don't like talking about things over and over to different people. It frazzled my brain! But I know that support is important!