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relationship advice

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0121bcfc · 13/12/2014 13:05

ok here it goes been dating somone who i went preschool and secondary school,been on two dates which seemed to go well but she not texting as much she is busy but dont take two seconds to text i deleted her off my facebook to see her reaction to see if it will shock her ,which hasnt gone down well tryied calling and texting she only just replied she said she would talk later ? now i rele do like her stupid as it sounds and dont rele want to lose her so what is the best thing to do ? leave her to text me ? or text her later ? or call her ? any advice is welcome

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SassyPasty · 13/12/2014 13:54

That's good to know

Now, chill a little and see what comes from your chat later. Be prepared for her wishing to return to 'just good friends' or a stern talking to about text neediness, she may just need you to calm your jets a little.

paleviewofhills · 13/12/2014 13:55

You can't run relationships via Facebook. I know I'm an old fart but...

dirtybadger · 13/12/2014 13:55

Why dont you ask her? "I really like you. Sorry for being a bit full on, I just want to know if you're interested because I find it hard to tell?" give her an "out". Best to be straight forward. If she is into you and says so take her word for it and stop with the pettiness.

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0121bcfc · 13/12/2014 13:59

i know that now lol any ideas on fixing it

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machair · 13/12/2014 14:02

She said she would talk later so I would wait for her to contact you. If she doesn't contact you within 48 hours, you could phone her (please do not text, always better to speak) and say you were concerned you hadn't heard from her and wanted to check she is ok, but leave the ball in her court. And don't sit around obsessing about it. Get out and do something. If you have been thinking of taking up a hobby, now is the time to start. Don't let her think you are sitting around waiting on her. Hope that things work out for you but remember that you can't make someone fall for you. If it is not meant to be, move on.

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0121bcfc · 13/12/2014 14:07

yeah ill give her space we are now freinds on facebook again so thats got to be positive ?

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CheersMedea · 13/12/2014 14:16

Well 24 is too old to be behaving like that.

How well do you know her? You said she was at school with you? Does she know about your mental health issues?

I would maybe send her a message saying "I'm really sorry for [whatever it was] I know I was behaving like an idiot. I hope you will forgive me" and "Have a great Christmas and see you in 2015"
or something like that.

Basically you want to convey "I know I messed up and Why AND I'm going to be out of touch for a while as I have my own life."

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0121bcfc · 13/12/2014 14:19

i tried dropping it into conversation so she does kinda know

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RubbishMantra · 13/12/2014 15:01

As the others have said, try to chill a bit. Your posts are reading quite manic. Do you have a friend to spend the afternoon with, or as previously suggested, a hobby to do? Help take your mind off the situation.

And yes, pestering her by text/facebook will only serve to freak her out. You've made your feelings clear, so wait and see how she would like to proceed.

Well done for beating your gambling addiction by the way.

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