So, I've been married to my dh just under a year, been with him for 3 and we have a lovely 3month dd. A few weeks ago I was up in the living room doing the early morning feed and his phone went off-he'd put it under the arm of the chair. I checked it-he's police and often gets called in and it was a what's app message from a woman saying 'where you gonna do it tonight'. I scrolled back through the messages and it contained explicit messages and photos of the both of them, asking each other to masturbate ect and then sending photos. He'd done this all after I'd gone to bed with dd, shattered because the day before had been his birthday so I'd had her all day, baked him a cake, had obligatory birthday sex. I confronted him of course because this is the 2nd time its happened and he said he didn't know why he did it, was in tears because I threatened to leave. I love him so we decided to give counselling a go, well last night was our last session before January and I don't feel any better about the whole situation. I think about it nearly all the time and feel like I've hit rock bottom, my dd is the only thing keeping me going at the moment. To top it all off his mother has been sending him horrible messages about me on Facebook and he's not said one word in my defence. I guess what I'm asking is what would you do? Stay because you love him and he makes you happy when he's not pulling stunts like this, or leave because it's destroying you?