Should I give this money?

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Backstory is my mum has lived with me for the past 16 years. In this time she has contributed 50 pound per week out of a 200 pound per week pension. I have covered phone bills, rent and all other household bills. Now I decided enough was enough as I have recently moved house and I paid for new blinds, carpets and all removal costs and she basically just walked in. I still have a broken bed and no bedroom carpet.She has found herself a flat in a sheltered housing complex and now my sister is requesting that each sibling (5) continubutes 200 pound to furnish and decorate this flat. I already feel that I have done more than enough for her and that I cannot afford and shouldn't have to give this money. I have am asingle mum to 2dc's and it is 3 weeks before Christmas

I'd reply with you think its a fantastic idea that they contribute to your mum, as you've been doing so for the past 16 years.

Lots of good advice here. Remember that this is a matter between you and your mother, you must forgive your sibs for their misunderstanding - they have been fed a line by her. You should make sure there is no doubt in their minds about what has really happened or this will become a family feud that will go on forever.

Mothers, what are they like.

Any way you can have this chat with your mum present?

A superb idea - doubt the mum will be too keen on it, though

Just a simple 'no, I cannot afford it' and leave it at that.

What Castlemilk said.

Tell them no.

You have contributed enough over the past 16 years. Do not allow them to make you feel guilty.

Trouble is the sibs have been fed a line by DM, they must genuinely believe that DM has no cash and that DSis has taken any cash she had in the past.

I think it's time to call DM on this. Some mothers enjoy this friction between their offspring, it's not healthy and can cause immense damage. She needs to be called to account. Of course she won't like it but she made her bed.

I think in this case a straightforward no is not enough. Your siblings need to be told how much you have been helping her out financially.