I've been seeing someone for three and a half months and it's been lovely!! We get on fantastically, always have a great time when we see each other, which is a few times a week, and are in touch a fair amount everyday. I've been feeling like I'm falling inlove and I've until now, I've always been convinced he feels the same way. He certainly says often enough how great he thinks this is.
The thing is, like anyone, I have been hurt a lot in the past. Up until now I've felt relaxed and secure in this relationship but the last few days I'm really having a wobble.
He works in hospitality and has a position with a lot of responsibility. He has always warned Me December is a nightmare and there has been a lot of unforeseen stresses where he works the last couple of weeks.
The last week he has been markedly different. He usually always finds time to send a little message or make a little call, but not at the moment. He's also seemed very preoccupied. I've tried to leave him alone. Saturday I sent him a little message saying I hoped he was ok. He didn't reply until last night when he told me he has decided he is handing his notice in and quitting. Something he has talked about in the last couple of weeks.
So you see, he obviously has a lot going on. This is not a decision he has taken likely, he is very ambitious but has had about as much as he can take.
I'm trying to be supportive and give space at the same time. I'm not sure I'm getting the balance right. The way he is acting these last few days is a lot like other men I've dated who have pulled away and faded out. How do I tell the difference?
I'm making his stress about me into head probably. I just suddenly feel quite insecure but don't want to add to his stress by saying that.
I don't understand why stress would make someone so distant? I would want him more if I was having troubles I think.