hi, my first post here! :)
I will cut this as short as possible so here goes!
I have feelings for someone I work with, feelings have been there for a year. we both slit with our long term partners just before I started to have feelings. work night out 1 we ended up sleeping together, a few months after I told him how I felt he said he likes me finds me attractive but doesn't want to get into anything with anyone. same thing happens again at next night out and we have the same chat he gives me the same response (told him cant happen again as not fair on me and he agrees)
work night out number 3 and same happens again and we then have same chat but he reveals a bit more that its difficult we work together but its nothing to do with me he said im too good for him (he lost a hell of a lot of weight a year ago and is unrecognisable now he has lost so much), he said I could go and have anyone - I told him it's him I want. He still says he doesn't want anything he also said we cannot get into the situation where it can happen again - he doesn't want to hurt me etc.
I know on the face of it I need to back off and leave him alone (I did that after the second time) but in my heart I know we have something - we chat and chat and chat in work about anything and everything, we have chemistry and attraction. His sister told me he has shown her a picture of me! news to me as he told me he has never told anyone about me.
my head is telling me move on find someone else and forget it. My heart is screaming don't forget him don't give up there is something special there and he needs to let his barriers down.
head or heart? I don't want to look desperate so even if I go with my heart it means leaving him for a while few months maybe longer and see what happens at the end of the waiting. im so frustrated :-(
love to hear you advice - i've exhausted my friends!
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ticketytock2 · 07/12/2014 21:52
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