Hi, I don't know if you remember a few weeks back I mentioned one of my friends decided to go back to her married man after breaking up every month just about, over the 4/5 years they have been together. Well since I have heard they are back together again, (I havent mentioned anything just not said anything or asked about him either.) she has decided not to talk to me.
She knows I think he is playing her and don't approve of him, everyone thinks the same however nobody has really said anything to her before about him.
So its interesting, we were meant to go out with her daughter this weekend to London but she went with him going back 2 weeks ago to the same place which is fine, however without me seeing it on Facebook I wouldn't have known, so instead we decided to make an arrangement to go out this weekend ice skating, which she had booked already.
We had arranged to meet at 3pm today, so I text at 12pm saying "where would you like to meet?",...I heard nothing back from her - only for me to text again at 3:30pm saying "parking is a nightmare lol and I hope you and little one are whizzing around the rink....and looking graceful, shall we meet for coffee afterwards?"
....and I was quite happy to do this but heard nothing not even from that text?
This isn't like her, but I feel something has changed since she has gone back with this married man and doesnt want to face it with me perhaps, I really don't know, don't think I will ever know. But I feel she is being really rude now and I am starting to lose my patience with her as well as thinking she really isn't worth being a friend after 7 years.
I don't approve of her married man relationship, its highly draining but havent quite said anything about this time she went back, nor have we ever really fallen out about him before, apart from one time when she took sides with her other friend because I made a statement about her friend who was rude to one of my friends, I had to apologise in the end...even though it was her friend who slated my friend's work, I thought that was really rude.
Either I am really bad at friends/confrontation or I need to find new friends and ones who are similar to me, I am starting to think this now as something says to me I don't fit in anymore.
I am in my late thirties, no children but have a great job, and nice home, car and lovely family. My friend here hates her job, no money, has a lovely daughter who I really get on with but is involved with this married man. Perhaps our lifestyles are just different now I don't know or she knows we are too different.
Any thoughts, as I don't really want to confront her anymore as I am tired of it and thinking perhaps she is controlling me as she has done something similar to her sister when she was annoyed with her and didnt talk to her. i am done with games though! i am feeling upset but at the same time want to walk away and forget it all...
thank you for reading on a Saturday night