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How much did you spend on him?

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Mumtobenovember · 06/12/2014 13:52

Just wondered how much you spent on you dh's and dp's this Christmas? I bought my partner a 500 watch and my mum thinks it's ridiculous!
We have been together 4 years always been skint at Christmas and we have had a shit year our dd was born 3 months prem and spent time in nicu and now we have finally found our feet and are a happy little family and not skint- is this too much? I just thought It was really nice as he's always wanted this watch. Now I feel bad and like I spent to much?

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CogitOIOIO · 06/12/2014 14:02

About Â£40.

Lucy90 · 06/12/2014 14:02

Ive spent £50 on OH and he will spend the same on me.
We are due to have our first baby in a couple of weeks and this is all we can stretch to this year.

velourvoyageur · 06/12/2014 14:18

I bet it makes you happy though doesn't it? And I'm sure he'll love it and appreciate it a lot. It's a token to mark a happy ending isn't it. Stuff negative people!

I wouldn't personally spend £500 on a watch but I'm sure you wouldn't spend what I spend on some of the things I like either, so it should be a non issue really.

Congratulations on your lovely baby and I'm glad things are working out for you finally.

Oh just seen that he's always wanted this watch, well then of course by all means! Some people buy big houses, some people spend loads on skiing or horses or whatnot.....and that's fine. Don't let your mum spoil it, enjoy the prospect of seeing his face when he opens it :-)

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Mumtobenovember · 06/12/2014 14:22

Thanks
I have a feeling he's got me a ring for Xmas so I guess it won't be like he's embarrassed of my extreme gift ??

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FelicityGubbins · 06/12/2014 14:23

If I had £500 to spend on my DH I would spend it happily. I don't have £500 so he's getting a box of fererro richer and a blow job...

dirtybadger · 06/12/2014 14:28

I wouldn't ever spend 500 on a gift unless it was something like a holiday. I've never had much money, though, so am a tight wad. I would probably be telling someone 500 for a watch was ludicrous/gross (IMO it is) but it's not my money so they'd probably tell me to do one and I'd have to listen.

Onmyownwith4kids · 06/12/2014 14:45

I think it's lovely that you've got something he really wants. It's something that he'll have as a constant reminder of your first Christmas with the baby after a difficult year. How you spend your money is up to you and it sounds like he'll love it

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Mumtobenovember · 06/12/2014 14:45

That's a great present felicity haha!
I've never spent this much as ever been able to but I saved !

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Fluffyears · 06/12/2014 15:19

If you can afford it and the sentiment sounds lovely then go for it. He'll love it. Me and Dp usually send a couple of hundred including a night away but this year it is token items as we have a big holiday in January to save for. I got him two t-shirts and chocolate coins (always get him coins it's a tradition).

bonkersLFDT20 · 06/12/2014 15:25

Nothing yet, Xmas is still a few weeks away. I would never spend that much on my husband, but it's none of my business what others spend and no one needs to justify anything.

Leviticus · 06/12/2014 15:27

About £200 on various things, clothes mainly.

Your gift sounds lovely. If he will love it for years and you can afford it it's not a waste.

InfinitySeven · 06/12/2014 15:29

I usually spend a bit... A few hundred, typically. But it's his birthday, too, and he has expensive tastes! I save through the year and get bargains when I can.

I don't have anything this year. I feel terrible.

MissMogwi · 06/12/2014 15:30

It doesn't matter if it's £5 or £500, it's your money, it's your business.

If your mum's not paying, tell her to keep her beak out!

FWIW I haven't bought my DP anything yet. I haven't got a clue what to buy him!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 06/12/2014 15:30

It is an awful lot, but if you feel happy spending it then that's fine.

We normally spend about £200 on each other, that includes stocking bits etc.

Wherehasmysleepgone · 06/12/2014 15:34

£50 but I'm on mat leave so bit skint! We haven't spent on each other for last few years due to being skint but years before that we would spend quite a bit so if you wanna spend 500 quid spend it - I know my do would appreciate it if it was me

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Mumtobenovember · 06/12/2014 15:39

Thanks everyone! My mum said because I'm on mat leave I should be sensible but I had 200 saved for it and was paid a full wage for two months so I though WHY NOT I feel a bit better now I just haven't ever bought anything that expensive! Thanks everyone for your replies x

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Joysmum · 06/12/2014 15:51

I spend what I can afford if there's something I think he'll appreciate. Tbh, I don't add up what I spend on everyone unless I'm on a budget. £500 to one person might be the equivilent of £20 to somebody else so it's not really worth comparing your spending to others

Chottie · 06/12/2014 15:57

I think it's lovely idea too. Enjoy your Christmas and I'm glad that life is on the up for you. :)

NoRoomAtTheGin · 06/12/2014 20:21

Hopefully every time he looks at it, it will remind him of you and your lovely baby and the journey you have both had this year.

acidteddy · 06/12/2014 23:23

I've spent about £130, on about 7 different things. I could afford more but there's not much more I can think of to get him, plus he has a January birthday so I don't want to use up all my gift ideas in one go! He probably spends a bit more on me (but that is partly because he's less of a savvy shopper, some of my bits were ebay snipes which could have cost loads more).

I think if it is something he's always wanted then it's a lovely idea.

FunkyBoldRibena · 06/12/2014 23:26

No idea, havent even thought about it yet.

Wouldnt spend that much, ever - to be honest. But then we are not religious. Nor short of cash. And we like it that way.

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