I am getting increasingly worried about my dads behaviour. He is in his early 60s now, and for as long as I can remember he has been quite an aggressive person with a very short fuse. He has never hit me or my sister or my mother, but the littlest things set him off into a shouting rage. For example if the train is late he will pace up and down the platform shouting and not care that anyone is looking! Or if he gets stuck in traffic he will start shouting in the car. What sets him off the most is if feels he is being told he is wrong, he literally explodes with anger out of no where! It was quite strained growing up at home, and now my sister and I have moved out, we notice his behaviour more when we visit, and I feel really bad for my mum having to live with someone with a temper like that. he is very dominate in conversations, almost like its a monologue rather than a conversation, and thinks what he has to say is more important than anyone else.
A couple of times we have tried to approach him about his behaviour, and anger etc, but this just sets him off as he thinks we are all ganging up on him. Which of course we arent, and have even tried one on one chats to try and see whats going on, but it always has the same outcome with him losing his temper. Growing up so many family occasions and holidays were ruined by his outbursts, and it makes me sad that now grand children have come along he still hasnt mellowed out, and I dont want it to get to the point we cant all be in the same room. with Christmas coming up and all of us being at my parents this year I am worried it is going to end up with my dad kicking off and ruining the day!
What would you do? Do you think he is a narc? Or has some other kind of mental health issue??