DP and I have been together for 3 years. Ups and downs during that time, he has periods of being very depressed (he has had a lot of knocks, mostly before I met him) and I react badly to that. He is in counselling but it's slow progress.
We have 2 weeks away on holiday together, starting tomorrow. A big deal for us as we are long distance and normally get every other weekend together due to childcare.
But when we booked it - we were both crazy in love with each other, and Jan 2015 was meant to be when we got the ball rolling for us to move nearer to each other. We were both so excited. Since then he has got complete cold feet. He doesn't know what he wants, says he feels trapped in a corner about moving (and it would be him moving, due to my job). At the time when we booked the holiday we were looking at engagement rings, and we looked at houses together. In an argument a couple of months ago, he said he was going to propose to me on holiday, that that is why he wanted it to be perfect and had upgraded our flights etc, but that now he would forget it.
We are still together - he wants to take it slow so I have completely stopped mentioning anything to do with either of us moving. But inside I am really hurt. Past few nights I have just been crying as this holiday gets nearer - he wants to go and "have fun" but I am finding it really hard to feel fun and excited, because I am thinking about how we were and what this holiday should have been.
It feels like I need to turn off my real emotions and pretend to get through these 2 weeks. Part of me (a weak pathetic part) is thinking - maybe this holiday will be what he needs to go back to how he was before. I know starting a discussion will ruin the holiday. But for me it feels ruined anyway. Trouble is, I really love this man, but that is getting less as he gets further from the man he was.
I don't know what advice I expect - not going on holiday isn't an option. Just needed to tell someone.