Am I being spoilt baby? (bit long)

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Hi - I used to post ages ago when ds was tiny under another name, I got spotted by a friend which put me off a bit so using another name now.

I really need some sound Mumsnet advice on whether I am being a spoilt cow! I could write a dissertation on this so I will try and keep it as brief as possible:

My DHs parents bought a villa in Northern Portugal four years ago. It is on a golf complex and other than golf there is nothing else there, just a course and a club house, no restaurants, bars or even a grocery shop. It is also on the Atlantic coast so the beach is wild - too rough to swim and too windy to lie on. Plus the weather is always rubbish! As my DH and I love the sunny beach holidays and don't play golf we haven't been yet because it just doesn't appeal.
Since DS was born last May we have come under increasing pressure from the in-laws to go. So much so that every time we see them it is like going to a time share sale! DH feels that we have to go or we will offend them (I do sort of agree that we should at least go and see for ourselves that it is rubbish rather than just assume)and so told them that we would go in the summer. His Mum then cornered me and asked if we would like them to overlap with us for a few days and they could help with DS. Didn't feel that I could say that I would rather holiday with Osama bin Laden, and MIL to date has never changed a nappy so not sure what "help" would entail. So I muttered that that would be nice and have instructed DH to make sure they aren't there for too long!

So the thing is that I feel really resentful that I have to:
a) use precious holiday time to go somewhere neither of us want to go - with no childcare so we won't get much of a break anyway
b) use precious money - the villa may be free but flights and car hire aren't
c) spend precious time with in-laws who do nothing but criticise me and never lift a finger to help their grandson

Just to keep them happy?

I think what galls me most of all is that they are absolutely loaded (just been on first class trip around the world for 7 weeks) and if they are so desperate for us to go to stupid Portugal why don't they pay for us to go - hence why I think I am being spoilt.

So for those of you who have managed to get to the end of this - be honest am I spoilt cow?

Prettycandles, now you have got me really worried! That is just the sort of thing they might do.

Skara - they are the most selfish parents I have ever come across. They are the kind that put their relationship and happiness first above all else - and have done since DH and his sister were small. They booked to go on holiday for three weeks right ove when DS was due (first grandchild). I was quite pleased, but DH was very hurt. They did end up being in England but only because FILs dad died so they had to come back for his funeral. (FYI - FILs dad was dying of cancer and was not expected to live very long but they still decided to go on holiday. When he did die - did they return asap to offer support to granny and aunts? No, they flew back a week later on the day of the funeral.)

Sorry you have got me started now!