Inexperienced at sex - help please?

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I have split up from my STBEH and recently started flirting with a man I have known for a little while. We haven't even got to snogging stage yet, but I'm anticipating it will fairly soon. Really have got the hots for him...

However... My long (and often unhappy) marriage was also accompanied by extremely unadventurous basic / Victorian-style sex. Basically very little foreplay followed by missionary position and occasionally me forcibly rolling over and going on top out of sheer frustration. He never got involved in oral sex - said he hated it, ditto hand jobs etc. Orgasms were rare and only ever really controlled by me (on top) not by anything he was doing.

I am now concerned about my lack of sexual experience and nervous about my new man and what to do when the time comes. I could do with some advice and suggestions of sources of info that won't result in my PC getting vast amounts of porn spam from Googling.

Heeeelllllpp!

OP - babydolls etc are your friend - black/nude and hide that sort of saggy tummy.

Bit of saggy tummy after kids isn't really an issue, may be to you if you feel self conscious but don't let it worry you, honestly us men are not bothered

I wonder if the internet might have video OP could watch to get some ideas from?

Ok, piss taking over; OP, just relax and do WHATEVER you think will make you and him feel good xxx

when they are off!

Trust me - when you've reached that stage he won't be bothered by something as trivial as a saggy stomach. To be brutal, if he wanted slim, skinny and perfectly toned, he wouldn't be with a woman who'd had 2 kids.

As for the rest, tell him about your previous experiences and that you've got a lot of exploring to do. I'm getting of him.

I wouldn't call someone who knows how they achieve orgasms inexperience. I know you said it was nothing your EX did but there are women out there who have never experienced the pleasure of an orgasm. I think you'll find a lot of people inexperienced at some things sexual. For example I have never done anal, where as you might have.
When you move on to oral concentrate on his balls as well as his penis.
Have fun exploring each other. Don't do anything I wouldn't do. Which doesn't leave a lot.

BJs are my biggest worry

paying the bills is mine... oh, see what you mean. well, there's definitely a book on it. see lovehoney.