Husband lies

[Snakesandpropertyladders]

A lot and about silly things and it's really getting to me.
Tonight I lost it with him and now we are not speaking. We went to look at a house to buy and it transpired that he had told the estate agent that we don't need to sell our place first. We absolutely do! I just don't see the point in telling a lie like that, it's only going to make him/us look stupid if we decided to make an offer.
It sounds so ridiculous written down but it's becoming a typical behaviour from him and I don't understand it!

At the weekend he told some friends about when he dented our brand new car. In the story he told them it was thundering and lightening..... This totally wasn't the case and I pulled him up on it, which of course he denied and everyone felt awkward. Maybe I should have left it but it really bugs me when he tells these pointless lies.

I'm starting to realise that he does it a lot. He won't answer the phone because he doesn't want to chat to someone. Rather than say so he will later make up some stupid story to explain it.

Just whhhhyyyyyy? I loathe liars and this situation is making me lose all respect for him.

My ex husband did this. It used to drive me up the wall. When it impacted on others it really annoyed me, for example if we were driving to visit friends or family and they called to see where we were (I always drove) he would tell them 10 minutes even if we were half hour away! I'd be screaming in the background. He lied so often I doubt even he knew the real truth. Initially, I would reassure myself that he was lying to please other people, saying what they wanted to hear, and so he had good intentions but then as time wore on it became apparent that he was lying to improve his image, he was so concerned with how he was perceived by others that he couldn't be himself. I could feel sorry for him if he hadn't fed our families a pack of lies upon our divorce, the fallout from which I am only just recovering now (two years later). I have no advice sadly, it sounds like ingrained behaviour so doubt you will ever change him. X

Interestingly his mum is the same with the lying. But hers is usually to cover up her excessive alcohol consumption. Rather than putting pressure on him she never seems happy when things happen that take him into a different way of life. She would be happier if he had a very ordinary, low paid job and stayed in it forever.