Help Ladies! do I have anything to worry about

[scrasey]

Hi there,

I'm hoping for a lady's perspective on this, as I'm not sure if I am over reacting.

My girlfriend who I love and live with was joking on facebook about giving oral sex to a guy she went on a date with once. it looks like really OTT flirting to me, and as well as that, she occasionally posts pics of celebrities with captions such as "I would" etc. she spends a massive amount of time on facebook, but isn't trying to hide it although there is a password on her phone (it's always been there). we've argued tonight. not because of jelousy, but because I thought it was a little disrespectful. last night it was one of the comments about the celebrity, tonight it's the oral sex, which went something like "is Bow Jb two words or one as I need to thank someone". she replied "LMAO I'm not sure", to which he replied "it was you I wanted to thank" and she said "I aim to please". to me this is bit more than banter and shows a complete lack of respect I think. what do you think? over reacting, disrespectful or do I have more to worry about? It also seems like half of her male friends on facebook are ex's to one degree or another. I haven't been to nervous up to now but having a wobble, so a womans perspective on this would be great.

Thanks

Somebody who loves a person would be more concerned that they'd innocently hurt them, not looking to blame them and call them unreasonable.

She clearly has no regards for your feelings. I'd never be that callous to my DH, no matter how innocent or jokey my original actions. When he's hurt, I hurt.

You have your answers here, you need to find someone you deserve, she doesn't deserve you! Very disrespectful , bet if it was the other way around she would hate it.

Not on, and making herself look easy in front of everyone which is embarrassing for both of you. IF some girl was jokingly thanking you for oral sex online and you responded I'm pretty sure It would be a different story.

Celebrity pics - I also don't like, but only because I think it's immature :/

She's taking the piss. Get rid.

It is disrespectful and at best shows you have incompatible values (but I'm not sure she will find anyone else who accepts the joke though!)

I think there are some massive red flags here - her disregarding your feelings is key as in any long term relationship there will be differences but rather than listen to you she is mocking you for a lack of humour.

What's your housing situation - are you renting? Speaking from experience, don't stay in a relationship where early on your feelings are ignored..it will only get worse, never better.